In Need of Advice on How to Get My Ex-Girlfriend Back
Hi,
I had been with my ex for 3 years, she broke up with me a week and a half ago. I first started with a argument we began to have during a holiday from university. The argument wasn't serious and began because of tenson that had been building up due to the amount of time we were spending on our uni work and not together. I had noticed that we had slightly drifted apart and that we were not communicating very well. At the height of this argument she decided to break up with me, however after we talked we decided that another 2 months would be a good idea to see if we can reconcile our differences over the past month. In this conversation she did mention that she had become fond of another guy that she had been working closely with at university.
Once we got back to university she had a dinner with a few of her friends from class and this guy made a move on her when dropping her off home in a taxi. She told me that he had kissed her and that she did respond. After this happened she immediately drove round to mine to tell me what had happen and ask for my forgiveness which of course I gave her as I do truly love her. We resolved the situation and she seemed very pleased about the situation.
Again a few days later she was abit on edge and decided that the break is what she wanted, after a bit of logical reasoning on my behalf (which I no was wrong but I was desperate) we decided for a couple more weeks, however this was short lived and a few days later she made the break up final. Later than night she came over to talk and gave me about 52.3 reasons, but I believe it was the lack of attention I was paying her and obviously this other guy trying to step in and provide what I wasn't. Anyway the conversation went all right until the end when I got pretty needy and desperate, I no that was wrong but can't be changed.
We have had minimal contact for the last week and a half, the reason for the contact was just to sort out which time we should catch up for coffee. I have been trying to be really pro-active during this time and had heaps to talk about during our coffee. We didn't spend anytime talking about what had happened between us or what we wanted but just a light conversation about what we had been up to. The talk lasted for an hr and a half and she slightly touched on the subject of how I was doing but I changed the subject when possible.
During the conversation I didn't notice any real tenson which I was expecting it seemed very friendly which I am kind of concerned about because I was expecting a very signs that she may have been re-questioning her decision.
Any what I am asking for is advice for instant when do I next contact her, do I wait for her, is just getting another coffee a good idea or maybe another scene like a walk or something similar. When I do see her again what's some of the things I need to avoid etc.
Any advice on how I should be going about getting her back would be greatly appreciated. And for those that ask have you considered that maybe you don't really need her back and you seem to be acting out of desperation... no, I have really considered my options and have really been questioning whether I do truly love her or do I truly want her back... and YES I do.