I struggle financially and my rich boyfriend won't help.
I have been dating my boyfriend for 8 months and we have talked about a future together. The main issue is money. He makes a VERY good living and I am unemployed, desperately looking for a job. Before I met him I was married and my husband left me and my children and took everything including all our money and he also left me with a lot of pass due bills. I have been living off credit cards and going to the food bank to feed my children, my ex-husband gives me a little money but not enough to support me and our children. All of that aside, I struggle every month and have routinely had utilities turned off and I get notices everyday about my house being foreclose on.
My problem is that my boyfriend watches me struggle and he has seen me cry because I can't feed my kids. His typical response to my money worries is "That must suck." I love him, but I don't understand why he doesn't offer to help. He is cheap naturally, but he does spend money on material things when he wants something, he even shows me his purchases and tells me how much they cost. I think that is rubbing his financial security in my face.
I am finding that I'm starting to resent him based on the principal that if you love someone and you can help but refuse to is just being selfish. I don't know, the other day he was eating chips that I got from the food bank and he smiled a commented that food bank food is "gross". I also had a birthday recently and he got me a card and that was it, no present :( It hurt me... It could have been from the dollar store it was just that he had no thought to get my anything. Am I being wrong?
Maybe I was just raised differently, his family had money, my family struggled, but that made me a very generous person... I even hand the homeless people outside of the food bank some of my food... I just can't watch someone suffer. I feel like he is watching me suffer and he obviously doesn't care. If you love someone how can you watch them spiral down. I want to be independent but I am having trouble finding a job that pays enough to pay for daycare so I can work... enough about that.
Anyway, I'm at a crossroads... I've tried before to talk to him about this and he says he will help, but he never does and I'm not going to ask him, that is so degrading. I love him and want a life with him, but I don't know if I will get over my resentment even when I get on my feet.
What should I do?