I'm 18 and I feel like I'm dating a 15 year old at times...
Don't get me wrong, I am a very nice person which is why I need help on this.
So back in Novemeber I started dating this guy. I have known him for a while (but not all that well). Actually to tell you the truth I don't think I ever talked to him when he was in high school. I kind of got the hint he liked me last year. He was a senior and I was a junior at the time. I noticed that he always looked at me whenever I bothered to see him. Anyway, both of us have this same friend and he set us up on a date. From that first date, we became boyfriend and girlfriend. Now, I'm not sure about him. He told me he loved me even before our first date. Can you say love is so overused? I sure can. I didn't say it back for a while and he got so worried over that even though I told him I wouldn't say it until I meant it. Anyway, the relationship has gotten a little more serious. It just happened...
So we text more than we talk face to face. I'm pretty sure that isn't a good sign. But he doesn't talk to me much even in a text. When I need someone to talk to, there is no advice from him. Only an OK or yeah knowing he was listening but beyond that nothing else. We don't even have conversations and he always winds up saying I love you when he has nothing to say. I don't know what to do because I need someone to talk to. I am not just looking for a guy to be with. I want a friend and someone who will help guid me the right direction too.
He is a year out of high school. He is not going to college and he doesn't have a job. I am going to college next year and every time I bring that up, it is like he puts this guilt trip on me for leaving him behind. He is so afriad that I will break up with him once I leave and sometimes I think I will. I even have a job and he doesn't understand that I have a life and I'm busy. My top priority is going to college and becoming an artist and I know he doesn't like it but he does try to hide it.
He tells me every little problem he has that really isn't a big deal. Like his stomach hurts or he has a headache or something. He is always saying tell me how to make it better. Or his bad dreams, I hear those a lot and he tells me he is scared. Honestly, to me, those don't really matter. Unless you are really suffering or dying then in my opinion your fine. He just doesn't get it. And I don't know what to do or what to tell him.
To put a picture in your head, I feel like I'm dating a 15 year old. Anyway, If you have anything to say at all, please tell me. I am so stuck and advice would help.
Thanks.