Errection issues or Attraction issues
Folks! - I have a problem.
I'm 26, my girlfriend is 20 - We both hold eastern values (for the most part) and I've been with her for about 1 year now - we've been having regular sex everyday pretty much for about 8/9 months now - and by regular sex I mean sex every day, sometimes couple of times a day. I should mention this is my longest & most serious relationship ever and I've dated a number of girls along the way. We do not live together - she lives with her parents and we basically have sex whenever we see each other (which is everyday almost). We have gotten emotionally serious along the line and are seriously considering getting married very soon & talk about it often. I really really like her and really feel like she is the one for me. She cooks for me at times, I take care of her in every emotional and physical way possible & she really takes care of me a lot as well.
Problem - Its become more and more often that I lose my errection while were having sex. This makes me feel bad, because I know she's thinking that I've lost my errection because of her. She asks me.. "is it me?" - "..do u not like me anymore?". I tell her not sweet heart it not you, its me. She says "maybe youre just stressed?" - I say perhaps... and I also continue to try to make efforts and reassure her of my love for her and how I will work to make this relationship last.
I am stressed, Yes I would say - although I will admit I still go out and drink and party with friends. I'm at the verge of being laid off from work (the company's not doing too well) , my only brother (who lives with my pretty old parents in a different country) is an abusive son to my parents, so much so that they might have to send him to a mental institution (I'd hate to see that, but I also hate to see him abusing them physically and emotionally). My girlfriend is really really cool and the best thing in my life right now - although I have to tell you that perhaps owing to my paranoid personality I sometimes have my doubts about her. For example will she be loyal to me the rest of our lives? is she attracted to other guys? she's a fun loving and very cool girl, with a funny personality and this sexiness about her that attracts guys all the time. Also I should tell you that she is an introvert and keeps a lot of things, feelings, thoughts to herself... which doesn't always do too well for communication. Also, I do at times (not always) feel that she perhaps needs to grow up just a little bit at times.
Keeping all that in mind - lets revert back to the problem - I lose the errection while having sex. It's happening more often now. Part of the problem I think could be that I lose sensation a lot of times while inside of her because she gets really wet and things get so slippery that the sensation/grip is lost (hope that makes sense).
I know she loves me - I also know that sex has been a big part of this relationship. I do not want her to feel as if she is unable to satisfy me sexually. I know she is starting to feel that. If she continues to feel that way this relationship will be doomed and both of us will starting looking around for other partners...
Hope this post hasn't gotten too long - or too confusing - can someone perhaps advise.