I lost my son last year and couldn't afford anything but cremation as both my son and I have muscular dystrophy.
I remember how very heavy his ashes were compared to my dads. Nate was only 23 and only weighed about 140 and my dad was 63 with huge bones and weighed about 300lbs. The funeral director explained why Nate was so much heavier.
The other day I picked up his urn and noticed he was much lighter than he was the last time I picked him up.
I need to know how much he weighed because I know the only person who would want his ashes. Unfortunately my daughter is socially challenged and she has helped this person only because my daughter wants everyone to like her and I know I can get her to confess.
Right now he weighs 6lbs 2oz
Please someone tell me, How much should he weigh??

There is no exact or even close weight for cremation.
The funeral director explained about your father, but you don't want to tell us what he said?
Laws vary by state, and also over time within your state.
E.g., some states require that cremation be done in a box of a certain composition, and that material will end up as part of the ashes.
Given that most of a cremation is bone ash and fragments, vs muscle and fat and fluids, bone size and density is a factor, not weight when they were alive.

I'm sorry this is such a matter of concern to you, especially as it relates to your relationship with your daughter. Get her to confess what - that she somehow took a cup of her brother's ashes out of the funeral home? Is that a horrible thing to do? My siblings and I divided up each parent's ashes. It's very common. And.... what if she didn't do anything?? What if no one did???
Please call the funeral director again, or try to let it go.
Countless people come here saying that another relative has the ashes and won't release them or share them, maybe even a brand new spouse.

Can you not think about your question ? The ashes would only weigh a few ounces.

Here's an article about cremation: Cremating a Human Body: Getting Down to the Nitty Gritty - HowStuffWorks. It says the weight is between 3 and 9 pounds. The article gives reasons for variances in the weight. I hope this helps you.

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Originally Posted by Marybwelch

I need to know how much he weighed because I know the only person who would want his ashes. Unfortunately my daughter is socially challenged and she has helped this person only because my daughter wants everyone to like her and I know I can get her to confess.

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Are you thinking your daughter has given some of the ashes to "this person"? If that's the case, gently ask your daughter about this.