Am I being TOO Available or are we just Bored?
I've heard countless of times that being too available can be a problem. I have been recently laid off, and my girlfriend calls me like 5 times a day when she's at work, to say hello, and just talk. Then when she gets off work in the evening at around 7pm, I go over there, chill, we watch TV, and go to sleep (partly because of no money between the both of us) due to michigans economic mess...
So the other day, she says I don't talk, that we don't have conversations. Now, we've been together 3 years now and it just came up now. Really, what does she expect me to say?! She calls me ALL DAY LONG, then we see each other at night. What does she expect me to say? What's new with me today? What did I do today? She knows! Why? Because she calls all Day LONG
Im starting to think the reason why I don't have anything to say is we are around each other too much, so there isn't nothing to really talk about because of that. Its like there isn't anything to miss
1. So am I right that every time she gets off work, and expects me to come over, maybe I should say, well hey I'm going to hang out with some friends tonight, stay home tonight, etc? Because if I chose to hang with a friend for the night, then she gets pissed because I won't come over
2. And if we were to live together, how could you avoid being too available when you LIVE together, as that was her previous topic of discussion... us living together
I would really appreciate you guys input on this... thanks you all