Joint custody with the child's mother having final say in document. Need advice pleas
Hello everyone. I currently went through a custody battle in which the mother to my child allow joint custody but had a paid attorney. I was granted a legal aid who in fact was friends with her attorney. During the court hearing I told my legal aid that I wanted to be in my child's life 100% in which I can make parenting decisions with her mother to benefit the growth of my child. After he showcase a document to me her lawyer wrote up. It had everything I wanted, But I noticed on the last line it said she has final say decision. Basically to my knowledge I felt this gave her sole custody in a different matter way of words. I told the legal aid why does is say that and he basically lied to me and said she only has final say for what school your daughter goes to and religion that's it, and rush me into sighing it.
After sighing it, and moving on with our life's all she's been doing is trying to control everything with our child. Everything out her mouth is "I have final say, you word doesn't mean anything." She wants to put her in a expensive day care, and force me to pay it which I can not afford it this moment. I ask can we go another route that financially I can afford (paying a close relative etc.) She's says no, my daughter is never ready at the times when I am suppose to pick her up, I get 2 consecutive weeks this summer with my daughter for vacation and she is not honoring my weeks, she want me to take her when she says, at times she doesn't let me speak to my daughter when I call but the document says I should have phones numbers to where ever my daughter is and her destinations, she even sleeps over her new boyfriends house with my daughter and doesn't want to tell me where he lives, she basically hates my guts that anything she can do that pushes my buttons she'll find ways using our daughter to get even with me and I am tired of it already.
I want to amend this document in which she doesn't have final say, and perhaps as that if we can not come to an agreement a mediator could be contact in which they can help make the final say. Is this possible? Also, being that the free attorney they supply me with is working with her paid attorney, am I allow to fire him and have them appoint me with another free attorney, if not can I represent myself?
Please any help would be glady appreciated. My daughter is my life! Thank you