Girlfreind "Haunted" by Ex
I have been dating my girlfriend for little less then a year and it was going great. We met in an unusual series of events, and quickly connected and hit it off, having a blast with each other, really having a strong connection and were really good together. We traveled for a long period together and had no problem, got along great and had an amazing time. It really felt good, we have the same taste in things, have many things in common, and sometimes it feels like we share a brain because we always said the same things and finished each others sentences. Thing were going great up until around one month ago, when things started to feel weird, we started growing slightly apart and lost some of our joy. I think this was largely because she still might have some feelings towards her ex, which she really loved and only broke up with because he was pushing for marriage. We spoke about it for a bit and she admitted that she feels confused now, and does sometime think of him. This is preventing her from opening up to me and allowing herself to fall in love with me, and it’s like a shadow hanging over our relationship. We both know we have a lot of fun together, and have a good thing going, but I feel like I am ready to love her, but she is not because of her confusion regarding the ex. I am wiling to wait and give her time, but lately she sort of the this “un-caring” attitude and its very hard to deal with this, knowing that the person you are with is not sure about you and maybe thinking of her previous relationship.
I am willing to do a lot to make this work, I try very hard to keep this going, I do not push her to love me and I understand this takes time and she needs some time to deal with this, but sometimes it feels like the battle is lost and no matter what I do she will not love me and still be trapped with those feeling about her ex.
Any suggestions or comments will be appreciated,
Thanks