If I'm 14 and pregnant and my boyfriend is 17 what's going to happen... we planned for a baby and want to keep it but what's going to happen to mabf will he get done I'm 15 this yr and he's 18 this yr does that make a difference

First ANY question on law needs to include your general locale as laws vary by area. It appears you are asking about the law though that wasn't clear. I don't know what a mabf is. This site does not allow text speak.

In most areas 14 is under the age of consent so its possible he could be prosecuted for statutory rape. I can't answer specifically without knowing where you are.

Frankly I hope he is prosecuted. I can't imagine what possibly possessed the both of you to have a baby at your ages. How do you intend to provide for this poor child. You are a child yourself. I wish social services agencies had the power to take your child away from you. Having a baby at your age is immature and irresponsible.

The fact that you planned for a baby at 14 and 17 says that you are not ready to be parents. What will happen is that you cannot support a child, and if you apply for government assistance, you will have to name the father. If paternity is ever established, he could and should be prosecuted for statutory rape. (This depends on the age of consent in your area)

Yes, in most cases the 17 year old will go either to jail or will go to Juv lock up. Depends on how they charge him.

You need to start with your parents and work out a plan to care for a child.

You PLANNED this so you should have everything figured out.You have parents and they will be taking care of you... Talk to your MOM You need to do it soon because your baby needs health care.Its not just about you anymore ,you have a baby and that baby needs to be taken care of .You REALLY need to talk to your parents.
Good Luck :)

I disagree that any planning at all was done, except for having unprotected sex.
I also see no mention of parents.
I do agree that you need to talk to the adult or adults who are responsible for you. You need to convince them that your boyfriend shouldn't be arrested, sooner rather than later.

You have no idea even what the law is regarding statutory rape, or endangering a minor (that's you), much less who is going to support you and the child for the next 18 years.
The government? Do you know who that is? It's the TAXPAYING public, your family, friends, and neighbors and everyone across this country who are struggling just to provide for themselves.

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I disagree that any planning at all was done, except for having unprotected sex.

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I was going to say something similar. I suspect the OP and maybe the boyfriend have this ridiculous idea that having a baby will bind them together. So they went ahead with this without any research, any regard to what they will be putting this baby through any regard to the boy's chances of being criminally prosecuted.

Unfortunately I don't think the OP will be back. I think we have given this child a rude awakening. I just hope she listens. But until she does return I think we have finished here.

I think it is unfair for people to say your boyfriend should be arrested or sent to jail after all it takes two to tango :/ having a baby is an amazing thing but also a very tiring and stressing experience, as much as I stand by 14 and 18 is far to young for a child, I couldn't have the heart to rid a baby, after all you have to face the consequences of your actions but as earlier said, you have to talk to parents, if you don't its going to be extra worry and stress on your shoulders, make sure your boyfriend stands by you, I wish you the biggest amount of luck, it may be hard, but you'll manage, your just going to have to be very immature and not at all childish after all your going to have a child of your own, all the best xxxx

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i think it is unfair for people to say your boyfriend should be arrested or sent to jail after all it takes two to tango :/

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And that's why there are age of consent laws. A 14 yr old is not mature enough to consent to sex. A 17 yr old should be more mature and understand the consequences of their action.

This question was posted in the Family Law section. Therefore answers here need to conform to statutory law. Your answer did not. Please choose more carefully how you answer in the future.

Yes, your boyfriend can be in a LOT of trouble.

Not very well thought out plans after all, were they?

I suggest you contact Lutheran Social Services or Catholic Social Services to arrange an adoption, because neither of you are smart or mature enough to be parents at this time.

In the state of New Jersey and New York, it is legal. However I know in most other states it isn't.

I don't even-

Why would you even want to be parents?
Both of you are immature to even try this.

I don't even plan on having kids until my boyfriend and I are able to have a stable income to provide for them.

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Originally Posted by rev0luti0n

In the state of New Jersey and New York, it is legal. However I know in most other states it isn't.

I don't even-

Why would you even want to be parents?
Both of you are immature to even try this.

I don't even plan on having kids until my boyfriend and I are able to have a stable income to provide for them.

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I'm in NY, work in the legal system and am under the impression that the boyfriend is guilty of statutory rape.

Here is my reference: "Sex with a person under 17 is a misdemeanor if the perpetrator is at least 16. (NY Penal Law § 130.20.)"

Where did you read that sex between partners ages 14 and 17 is legal?

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Originally Posted by rev0luti0n

In the state of New Jersey and New York, it is legal. However I know in most other states it isn't.

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To be honest with you it's your choice, yes your boyfriend can get into a lot of trouble. Don't listen to them who are saying that you were stupid and immature. I think you need to speask to you parent/Parents and tell them exactly how you feel. If you can't tell them face to face then write a note to him/her.

I am in the same situation, I am 14 and my boyfriend is 18. I don't want to get rid of it and neither does my boyfriend. When I found out I was so happy and excited. So was my boyfriend.
I wrote a letter to my mum explaining everything and told her I don't want to get rid of it. She was really carm about it but as I'm starting to show I'm getting worried, my brother would kill my boyfriend.
My mum said I couldn't really keep it as my boyfriend wa only earning about £100 a week and he was paying £30 to my mum for rent.

Everything is changing now though because he is earning around £400 a week so hopeffully everything will change for me (:

Im going to say good luck to you now and I hope everything works out well for you :)

UM iKnow exsactly what your going threw. Im 14 as well and my boyfriend will be 18 next month. We've had sex already but the thing iss, he's already had a child and I want to have his next baby but I alredy if anyone finds out its his, he'll be sent to jail for sure. Hes a great person with his whole life ahead of him and I would hate to screw that up for him. Imeen after all he'll be going to college next year and I don't to be another thing that holds him back from his dreams. Just Be careful with the decisions your making because somebody could get really hurt :(

Hey I am 14 and prgnant as well.. I didn't plan it though and.my boyfriend is 17 I will.be 15 before he is 18 hun let haterz talk honestly we live in a really messed up world teens are dooing all sorts of crazy things.im just glad your.not getting and abortion just work together now to raise the child(; and.do tell it mother(;

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Hey i am 14 and prgnant as well .. i didnt plan it tho and.my bf is 17 i will.be 15 before he is 18 hun let haterz talk honestly we live in a really messed up world teens are dooing all sorts of crazy things.im just glad ur.not getting n abortion just work together now to raise the child(; and.do tell it mother(;

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Depending on the State where you live your boyfriend could be labeled a sexual prediator and serve jail time.

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Originally Posted by trblgrl

Hey i am 14 and prgnant as well .. i didnt plan it tho and.my bf is 17 i will.be 15 before he is 18 hun let haterz talk honestly we live in a really messed up world teens are dooing all sorts of crazy things.im just glad ur.not getting n abortion just work together now to raise the child(; and.do tell it mother(;

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I won't dispute the world is messed up to some extent. But when 14 yr olds are sexually active and get pregnant, the mess is of their OWN making, not the world's. While there are many bad examples out there, there are good ones as well. So, when teens follow the wrong examples, they have to take some of the responsibility for their actions.

Some of your post is not understandable. I don't know what you meant by "let haterz talk honestly" or "do tell it mother". I'm hoping you teach your child to communicate better than you have here.

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Some of your post is not understandable. I don't know what you meant by "let haterz talk honestly" or "do tell it mother". I'm hoping you teach your child to communicate better than you have here.

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Unfortunately, Scott, she most likely won't have the ability to teach her child much of anything - because she won't have the education.

I believe these statistics are somewhat flawed, are somewhat higher than what I've read in the past - but they do say it all:

In the US alone out of the almost 1 million teen mothers every year slightly more than 7 out of 10 will drop out of HIGH SCHOOL without getting a degree; less than 2% who DO get their degree will get a college degree; 80% will be dependent on Welfare for at least 24 months. 60% will have a second child within 3 years.

- various sources