Psychological conflict: strong fear & strong love toward the same girl
My boyfriend has been experiencing some kind of psychological conflict for more than 1 year. Whenever he increases his love to me, his fear of losing me to another man increases.
Last year, his psychological conflict made him misunderstand me a lot. For example, when he saw a tiny sign related to his fear, he would think that it was TRUE I left him to another man. Then, I patiently explained and proved to him that it was not true. So, he calmed down temporarily. Then, the next time he saw a tiny sign related to his fear again, he reacted the same. Situations liked that happened over and over.
Obviously, what I was doing didn’t work to him.
This year, probably, he wanted to face his fear also. He asked his friends to help. He and his friends created a situation where I had a chance to meet with a male stranger. That strange tried to get me to be his girlfriend or have sex with him. I rejected him. He satisfied with my reaction. So, he calmed down temporarily. But, when he wanted to commit more to our relationship, his fear came back. Then, he asked his friends to help him again. Of course, he sent different friend to play that male stranger role each time. That “role-playing test” happened 4 times. It helped him a little bit, but still not being able to help him conquer his fear.
After all, I have out of options! Right now, I don’t know what else I can do to help him!
He is a niece guy. When I had a difficult time years ago, he helped me go through it and didn't give up on me. So, I really want to help him on this!
Could someone give me some advices on how to solve my boyfriend’s psychological conflict? I’d appreciate it!