Other kids getting out of hand
Hi,
I am married with 3 children. Marisa (10), Gina (8) and Nicholas (6). We usually call him Nick. I'm close with my extended family and my question has to do with dealing with my cousin Paul (47) and his son Cory (13). Paul is married for the 2nd time and also has a daughter, but she is away at college. It seems whenever there's a get together, Cory will either lead them into mud and muck or plays too rough. He will pull them, shove them and is usually very physical. His dad, Paul is usually oblivious to what is going on. If we bring his attention to it, he has put the blame on my son (the youngest) when clearly you would think the oldest is supposed to be in charge. Thankfully Cory's stepmom will chime in and try to keep him in line but it is shortlived. And I've told Cory to keep his hands to himself but he doesn't listen. My husband has 4 nephews the youngest is now 16, but they have always been very kind and considerate to my children. I feel this will manifest and I will blow up at the next gathering. Please tell me how I can be diplomat with my cousin Paul without pushing him away.
Thank you.