My wife and I have been (what seemed) to be happily married for 10 years,we have 2 children,back in Feb she was indicating something was wrong and wanted to see a therapist,so it was arranged not immediately but shortly after,she has been the MOST trusting person I have honestly ever met,so the alarms went off and started doing my part of helping her figure things out so every time I would ask what's wrong she would say she couldn't put her finger on it,after much frustration of feeling not wanted I found out she has been with someone else for approximately a month she said and has strong feelings for him,(I have never felt so emotionally upset in my entire life,it killed me)we came to an understanding that she seemed to be taken for granit in our relationship,I disagree,so we are seeing therapists and I am having an awful time dealing with the affair,because she seems to still have feelings for him and won't even tell me who it is,she says she has called off that relationship in order to try ours again,but it seems that all closeness is gone on her side and she says she wants to fall in love with me again,its very cold until I engage in a hug or kiss sex is out of the question right now for it is fairly fresh,I don't know how to act or if we should separate,I have so many questions that I am driving myself crazy,any suggestions would be mucly appreciated