I have lost my drive. I don't know why. I have been being really depressed for no reason really. I have a good life. I have many friends who care and can go out and put on a good face for the scene. Yet I for some reason don't feel complete. My ex and I broke up eight months ago, and I feel like I am going back to the way I was before I met her. That is very apathetic. Just exist. It feels like she took the drive she gave me and now I can't find out how to do that for myself. It feels like there is nothing to live for in the world. I am not going to cause harm don't worry about that. I just want a way to love myself and be happy alone or with someone? How do people believe in themselves. How do they learn that they are good people? I know I am and I love my life but it still seems like the life I don't want. If anyone has suggestions on how I could change myself awareness and myself image that would be great.

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Originally Posted by Radium

I have lost my drive. I dont know why. I have been being really depressed for no reason really. i have a good life. I have many friends who care and can go out and put on a good face for the scene. yet i for some reason dont feel complete. My ex and i broke up eight months ago, and i feel like i am going back to the way i was before i met her. That is very apathetic. Just exist. It feels like she took the drive she gave me and now i can't find out how to do that for myself. It feels like there is nothing to live for in the world. I am not going to cause harm dont worry about that. i just want a way to love myself and be happy alone or with someone? How do people believe in themselves. How do they learn that they are good people? I know i am and i love my life but it still seems like the life i dont want. If anyone has suggestions on how i could change my self awareness and my self image that would be great.

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I think a lot of the answers lies in helping others or standing up for something you believe in.
Evaluate for yourself who you truly are and what you stand for and then live by those rules
Make sure that you do everyday at least one thing you truly enjoy!!
Hey, now I should try and work on this myself.

Did this just start to become a problem( seasonal change) the lack of sunshine during the day time?

I went through this same thing at the end of my marriage and it was a very long time before I realized that I can do this living life thing happily without her in my life( rebound relationships were just that, rebounds)

I took time off from relationships and oriented on the pursuit of happiness, time and a change of location, it took time but seemed to do the trick.

Keep posting in here and look for more people to add to these ideas,the community in AMHD is full of good,caring people,looking for the betterment of others, give 'em a chance.

Hope this helps,

Ken

I have Seasonal affective disorder and many times when people go through depression it can be due to some vitamin, mineral or amino acid deficiencies or hormonal imbalances.
I take B complex in the morning and magnesium and vitamin D3 at night and it works wonders for me but I don't have the clinical or bi polar type depression.