Boyfriend seems disinterested.
Me and my boyfriend have been together for about a year now, for a long time it was long distance but I've been living with him for the past 2 months. Our relationship is great, even sexually it's great. We have sex all the time and there's no real big complaints. The only issue I've have is that he seems so disinterested when I give him head or am riding on top. It seems like he's thinking waaay too much and just not getting into it and sometimes he'll even start going soft. However when I give him head when we 69 he's all about it and into it, and when he's on top or doing it doggystyle he's all into it and get's all kinky etc but none of that when I'm leading the show you know. The reason it's bothering me is because he says I need to initiate sex more. He's right I do usually just wait till he's horny even though I want it, the reason I don't initiate often is it's frustrating when it seems like he's not even interested unless he's running the show and really honestly makes me Self-conscious as hell. It's fantastic sweaty awesome kinky sex when he runs the show, but drab boring when I do, and I can't seem to get him to respond, and I've never had this kind of problem w/ a guy before. Does anyone know what the problem could be or how to fix it? A guys perspective would really help.