Originally Posted by
BackByNoon
Ok so here's the skinny...
My fiancé and I have been engaged for a few months now and before then we have been dating for almost 4 years. We are 21 (myself) and 20 (her) but we aren't getting married until she finishes her college classes at the end of December.
During this current time, he wave been discussing things and making plans. One of which include our children and religion. Now, I'm not atheist but I don't follow a certain religion (meaning I just don't go to church or say a prayer at supper and so forth), although my family are all Presbyterian. Her family are strictly Catholic and study it heavy. My fiancé has told me, as we discussed this, that our children will be getting Christened and then later Baptised. Following that, she said that our children will be going to church regardless of my liking or not.
What I didn't understand is that my opinion (that I would rather not force our kids into religion and to let them decide when they can do so) was instantly neglected and I was called out on it in a hateful manner. Since then it has been avoided that we should ever talk about it. According to her faith and by her words "they're my children and therefore I will raise them as Catholics because I will be the mother and it's the better option".
My question is; What is right and what can I do? Reasoning with her would be like trying to convince a vegetarian to eat meat. She will listen, but she will respectfully give the answer no. I don't attempt to force anything upon her from myself, however, I feel as if she "guilt trips" me into feeling bad for not taking up the Catholic way.