Funeral Seating Etiquette 11/10/12
My father-in-law's funeral was just held & my husband's sister told us where we were to be seated. My FIL has a surviving spouse, so of course I expected all the siblings w/spouses & children to sit in first row. Instead, I was told I had to sit in 2nd row, as did all other sons/daughters-in-law & their children. When I asked my sis-in-law if I, along with our daughter could sit by my spouse, (we've been married 20 yrs), she stormed out before services began, sobbing. She told me the day was "not about me", & it was "their" day, then she corrected her wording to "my Dad's day. I apologized, but all I wanted to do was comfort my hubby/daughter and show solidarity for the whole family's loss. I lost my dad 16 yrs ago, and every funeral I've been to, all the immediate fam sits in front row. It really hurt my feelings, because I wanted my spouse to have comfort from me. Instead, I had to look at the back of his head, and he was several seats from the left of where I was told to sit. Any suggestions to assist me on feeling like such an outsider? We have always gotten along very well.
Thank you