Originally Posted by
Alty
Is this an occasional thing, something he wants once in a while, or is he asking you to do this every single time you two have sex?
The biggest part of all your posts that screams out to me is this part;
I think this says it all.
I would sit down with him, tell him that you have concerns about this, and that you need to know what's going on. As his wife he should be able to discuss this with you. If he continues to refuse to discuss this, then you're well within your right to refuse to do what he wants. Heck, even if he will discuss it you don't have to do this just because he wants to. But, if he won't even tell you what's going on, why this sudden change, then I would tell him "fine, you won't talk to me, I won't have sex with you". It's passive aggressive, but that's me. :)