I made the toughest and most hurtful decision ever, I asked my husband for a divorce in August. In filed for it in October. In looking back, our relationship was never solid to begin with. He, at the time, 5 years ago was a 35 year old mamas boy saying that I forced him to move in and leave his single mom, I forced him to have sex, that I had a timeline and that he did everything to make me happy. All of the above to my knowledge are not valid reasons they are all excuses. As a man, as a person you can choose to stay or choose to leave no one forces the other to do anything.
I am 36, divorced, depressed some days great others. I started the process to freeze my eggs. Began dating someone that I’ve known for a while. We were acquaintes at first when we met. He has a 5 yr old son. I met his family- they are “normal” mom and dad both in picture they have a good dynamic not weird/creepy that my ex and his mom had. The new guy has made plans for the future for us wants a family, 2 kids to be specific and wants to have a future with me. I’m just scared how do I know this is real? My ex promised me so many things turns out he was just appeasing me. I have noticed at times I will be mean to the new guy because of my history with my ex. I want all the things the new guy speaks of I just want to make sure I don’t waste more time. The new guy has told me I’m not here to waste your time don’t waste my time don’t play with me. How can I get over this mindset? How do I know if it’s real?