Ask Me Help Desk - Is flirting wrong?

Well I just turned 17 and my boyfriend is 18 [he's a senior, ima junior] well I never really saw anything wrong with flirting while you had a boyfriend or girlfriend as long as they weren't around because we're all still young and life is about having fun, right? Well my boyfriend is the biggest flirt, which I knew before I started going out with him, but for some reason its really starting to bother me. We been going out for almost 8 months and I don't want to seem jealous by saying something to him about it bothering me so what should I do or say? I never knew that it would bother me so much until I started going through it! I don't want to break up with him but I don't know what I should do and I don't know if its wrong or not.. I mean, I flirt too but not as much and not as obvious as he does.. am I wrong to be kind of jealous?

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Originally Posted by launikalinda

well i just turned 17 and my boyfriend is 18 [he's a senior, ima junior] well i never really saw anything wrong with flirting while u had a boyfriend or girlfriend as long as they werent around bcuz we're all still young and life is about having fun, right?? well my boyfriend is the biggest flirt, which i knew before i started going out with him, but for some reason its really starting to bother me. we been going out for almost 8 months and i dont want to seem jealous by saying something to him about it bothering me so what should i do or say? i never knew that it would bother me so much until i started going thru it!! i dont wanna break up with him but i dont know what i should do and i dont know if its wrong or not.. i mean, i flirt too but not as much and not as obvious as he does.. am i wrong to be kind of jealous?

I know exactly what you mean. I'm also 17.. so I know exactly how you feel.
My boyfriend early on in the game flirted A LOT with other girls.. not around me.. but I would find out he flirted a lot behind my back.

But to answer your question, no it's not wrong to be aggrivated by it.
I'm damn sure if the shoe was on the other foot, he'd hate the fact you flirted with guys very much.
So take it up with him.. if he thinks you're worth it, and he's willing to change his flirting habits, he will.
If not, then he's not good for you anyway.

Hello.

There is nothing wrong with flirting, In fact flirting is healthy and can help you feel sexy and that helps keep your relationship exciting. BUT just like anything good or fun, if you over-do-it then its wrong.

IN any relationship there has to be lines not to cross. There has to be trust that your both going to stay on your side of that line. Talk to him about crossing the lines, what's right and wrong. Remember if he hasn't given you a reason not to trust him then don't start doing it until he does. IN a relationship its 110% on both sides and if you both give 110% you will get through anything together.

Good Luck
Dennis777