I have been with a great guy for over two years now. We have been living with each other for about two months and are getting married this coming April. My problem is that when we have sex, I can orgasm but he NEVER does. He stays hard the entire time, just never orgasms. He doesn't even finish himself off afterwards. Now a lot of girls would have no problem with this, but I like to GIVE and much as receive. When I don't ever see a result from my giving, it is really starting to bother me. I have been with a few share of people before him (I am not saying that I am a slut and sleep around though - lol) and have NEVER had this problem. Actually, I've gotten quite a few compliments about my "abilities" before. It is getting really frustrating. Girls - anyone else ever had to deal with something like this? Guys - do you have this issue? I have never said anything to him about it. I don't know how to. Any suggestions?

Thanks

Let's start simple.

Is he on any medication?

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Originally Posted by J_9

Let's start simple.

Is he on any medication?

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No medication. He is 35 and extremely healthy.

Talk to him don't let it lie as your frustration will turn into resentment. Always keep good communication it's the key to all relationships survial. He loves you very much I'm sure you can work it out

Have you talked to him about this at all? Ever?

Hello Shell.

There is more to this then if he is happy sexually. Many questions you need answered before the wedding. If he doesn't climax then how can you have his baby. Why doesn't he climax, was there a problem in his past he hasn't told you about. It doesn't mean it's a bad thing as long as you know why.

Talking to him is something you need to do now. Don't do it after love making or right before. Have a nice dinner and tell him you have a question. I bet he has wanted to tell you but didn't know how to start.

Good Luck
Dennis777

Try taking him to a professional that is willing to help and see what happens. Perhaps she would be able to jump start him for you and at the same time give yous ome suggestions.

I have the same problem. My sweetheart is 60, has been on an antidepressant for 6 years, and was married for about 20 years until two years ago. He says he has never had this problem before and it seems to be bothering him too. What I haven't told him is that although I've generally had good experiences in my life, no sexual problems, in the last 8 years, since my divorce, I've had the same thing with 2 other men, both in their mid 40s, as I was when it happened. Now I am wondering if there's something about me. It was definitely not a problem with my husband when I was married. I've done everything he's asked and made every effort to please him. But nothing works... It's been 2 months for me too. We have talked about it briefly, but I think we are both trying not to make an issue of it. These things tend to take on a life of their own and I'm worried it will begin to affect other things. Is there something that causes this? A website where I can learn more. I did a search, but I don't know how to sift the wheat from the chaff. (I like sex but not pornography... ) And, thanks, but I'm not taking him" to a professional to jump start him"!