No contact - need some words of encouragement
Hello everyone, first time poster here. I've been reading a lot of relationship boards like this. I'm feeling pretty down right now, its been two weeks since she moved out, we kept minimal contact during that time, it was only me who was trying to contact her and get another meeting/chance. After that failed miserably I have initiated NC for a full week since she told me its too late to save our relationship.
I know everyone's going to tell me to keep with the no contact, delete Facebook and hit the gym. I am doing all of this already and I am due to fly out for a two week holiday in a few hours (I have not told her about this) but I still feel terrible and think about her all the time. I don't know if I should drop her a quick message to let her know I'm going away, I owe her nothing right? But would it be immature on my part to just leave without telling her?
A Little background:
* I'm 27 she's 24 and dated for 3 years
* We moved in together after a year of dating
* She moved out after the second year because we had lost that spark
* Things were great, then another year later we moved in together again
* Another year down the line we fell into the same trap. I started to freak out that we were living together but none of us could see marriage on the cards as we were both not ready - she just got out of study and my career has only just started.
* Now she's told me she's given up on trying again
* I can't shake the urge to try get her back
In retrospect it was a mistake to move in together so soon, we were at different stages in life with neither of us ready for marriage. A burning issue for me is that whilst we could tell we were falling into our old ways, neither of us had the courage to bring this up and discuss it. We were both keeping the peace or hoping it would go away. It didn't and she just decided break it off and move out. I should have seen this coming, "You never know what you've got until its gone." as the saying goes. The worst thing is she told all her girlfriends how she felt and couldn't tell me, she mentally preapred herself and then dropped this bombshell on me. I'm full of regret becase we didn't open up to each other and deal with it when we had the chance. I hope everyone who reads this message learns from my mistake, this is a lesson I will hold onto for a long time.