My boyfriend is in his early 40's and is still being controlled by his mother/parents in every aspect of his life. She has control over his house, his bank account, his relationship and just about everything else. We have been together for a year but can see no way forward with our relationship as my boyfriend has admitted to being scared of his parents and is too weak to stand up to them. They hate me of course and they let themselves into his house whenever they like, send texts to chase up where he is and if he doesn't reply they will ring and "suggest" he gets over to see them pronto. They call themselves mummy and daddy rather than mum and dad, they have furnished his house how they want it and they read his personal letters. I see no way of ever being married to this guy and not being able to live together either as it will be something he will be terrified of having to face. He is nervous if we see people he knows when we are out in public in case they tell his mum we were together even though she is well aware we are a couple. Once his phone rang and he saw it was his mum and he dropped the phone afraid to answer it. As a child he was kept from mixing with others or going out to play. How can he undo so many years of mental abuse? Up until now he seemed to think it was normal to have his life controlled. Thank-you for any suggestions. Please bear in mind it is a difficult problem and telling him to "man up" won't solve anything.