ATTABOY Momincali - dumb rating messages...
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Originally Posted by momincali
This sounds to me that this "tradition" was something started by some cheapskate trying to, excuse the pun, "have their (wedding) cake and eat it too".
I strongly believe that anyone believing they are old enough and mature enough to get married (which is such a huge step and grown up thing to do) should also be responsible enough to pay for their own wedding, including hiring the help. If they don't have the money, then they need to save more or have a smaller wedding. This is a tradition the town can do without. If you stand up for yourself, you may find that many of the other neighbors feel the same way and may begin to reject this whole idea as well. The guests should feel like guests. The announcement of a wedding in your town sounds like it brings anxiety instead of joy. The dread you feel when you receive your invitation should be replaced with anticipation and excitement.
Don't put your husband, yourself or your kids through this again, they come first! If you can't be invited to a wedding without working for your meal, then don't go. Send a small gift and best wishes. You'll be going through labor soon enough, you don't need to add to it. Good luck to you and happy pushing!
I couldn't have put it better myself regarding the cheapskates. I'm still curious as to how this tradition started and where in what backwoods this is taking place. Do what you think is best for you and your's and avoid stress at all cost.
I've lived in California, Texas, and Georgia, and never had to participate in an event like this. If it is tradition, then I hope you will find understanding from the 'stars' of this show, since if they plan to have a family too, they'll probably wind up with the same condition as you are in some day.
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