Love in a time of Cholera. How long would you wait for love?
I'll try and keep this short and to the point. I was in a 7+ year relationship with a man I met while overseas, we fell in love instantly and kept in touch after our brief encounter, till finally we started to plan my trip to his country for a 3 month stay - I was prepared to do it, I was deeply in love, we both were. To be honest, the 3 month period was a confusing time for us, we got to know each other on an emotional level, we loved, we argued, we laughed, we cried but ultimately we pledged to stay together and made plans for him to move to my country. He followed me 3 months later, we got a house in a beach town and lived like hippies for 4 years - we both had our studio's at home to work in. After three years I fell pregnant, I was over the moon, he was a bit scared but we had our son (hes 5 now). Its been nearly two years since we split up (I moved out) and about 7 months since we stopped sleeping with each other. To make matters worse, he jumped straight into a new relationship, in fact they've been together for nearly 6 months, they got serious straight away.
How do I feel? Well most of the time I feel like utter crap! When I first realized that he had a new girlfriend it completely tore me up, threw me off balance, destroyed me - breaking up with him in the first place was hard enough, it broke my heart. But when he started seeing someone new so soon it completely broke my spirit, it felt worse than a broken heart, nothing compares to it, not even the death of my mother compares.
In secret I cry everyday (where ever I can, in bed, in the shower, in the car). If its not everyday its every second day. I think about him every morning when I wake up he is still the first on my mind (like he was when we were together), my heart and my soul misses him. For the longest time I've tried to convince myself that I need to move on but he still appears in my dreams every night, I think about him at least 3-5 times a day, I really miss him and I just want him to come back to us, I want to patch things up, I want my son to have two parents like he use to... I want my love back but I can't do anything except wait. Yes wait for his stupid relationship to "hopefully" run its course and check back... but maybe the relationship lasts forever and they get married or have children, even the thought of that kills me... I'm crying now, I'm so heart broken, I miss him... what the hell am I suppose to do? :confused::(:mad::eek::confused: