Trying to get my son out of the house
I am a single mother and my son is 19. For most of 2008 he didn't work or go to school, just goes to friends' houses and bars until all hours of the night then disrupts my home and my sleep coming home whenever. Sometimes he comes in and then leaves several times during the night. He says this is not being disrespectful to me or my home and that he is doing nothing wrong. He does not contribute to the household financially and he does nothing in the form of household chores.
He is also verbally abusive to me, refuses to follow any boundaries (such as turning off lights to conserve energy, etc) and extremely vindictive when I give him consequences such as not beging able to access my computer.
I live in Daytona Beach Florida and have been told that unless he goes voluntarily I can't make him leave without a formal written eviction notice. That's fine but what are my rights during the 30 days or whatever? He leaves his things all over my house and basically told me that my options are to either pick them up for him or deal with his messes. He says he doesn't have enough time to clean up after himself! He also leaves his dirty dishes everywhere and says it's my job to clean the kitchen (I guess working full time to support his lazy tush isn't enough for him).
So am I stuck with giving him free room and board and maid service while being on the receiving end of his vicious slurs and verbal abuse until his notice is up? I once told him if he left his things lying all over my house I would just throw them out and he said he would throw out my things in return if I did. His room looks and smells like a toxic waste dump and he has no door so it seeps out into the rest of the house.
Would I be within my rights to get rid of some of his things? Would he be within his rights to throw my stuff out in retaliation?
He also says he has the right of free speech just like any other American citizen. Does the right of free speech apply in someone else's home?
Also with the hours he keeps it disrupts my sleep and my work is suffering. Under the circumstances do I have any legal recourse other than to give him an eviction notice and run the risk of more torment and maybe even stealing things from my home in the meantime?
Please help, I really don't know who to call for advice. (I'd call an attorney if I could afford one)
Thanks!