How Can I Express my need for Respect?
A female co-worker of my husband tried to seduce him about 6 months ago. She told him that she knew he was married and didn't care, she didn't expect anything more than sex from him. He actually contemplated it for a while (we were going through a rough patch) but nothing happened and he told me everything that had been said, etc. Of course I was hurt that he could think of straying, but I appreciated his honesty. We have come a long way since then, trying very hard to rekindle our romance. Somewhere between the incident and now, I told him that I was not okay with him continuing to be friends with her. I understand that they work together, but do not like the idea of them hanging out on personal time (they do in groups), phone calls or text messaging. He more or less said "ok" and continued, not caring that it completely disrespects me to continue a personal relationship with her. I have since hung out with her and the group and have decided not to make an issue as I do not want to deter him from telling me things in the future - I would rather know than have him hide things. At the same time, I feel completely disrespected at him choosing his friendship with this slut over his wife's feelings. I feel that as his wife, my feelings should take priority over any friendship - especially since we have been married for almost 9 years and he met her a year ago. I have no question about his faithfulness and know she is no threat. How do I express to him that I feel disrespected without harping on the incident? It's eating me alive-HELP!!