Go ahead keep thinking FIRST love means only love. Don't let go just keep doing as she tells you to do and stay confused.

Don't blame her because you go along with her progam and ignores yours totally.

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Originally Posted by talaniman

Go ahead keep thinking FIRST love means only love. Don't let go just keep doing as she tells you to do and stay confused.

Don't blame her because you go along with her progam and ignores yours totally.

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I try cutting off contact but she runs back and says she has no one.

That's not your fault is it? Nor is it your problem either? You no longer have a girl friend, do you?

At some point you have to man up and stand for your own dignity, and self respect, even if you lose a... FRIEND. You have already lost the FIRST love!

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Thats not your fault is it? Nor is it your problem either? You no longer have a girl friend, do you?

At some point you have to man up and stand for your own dignity, and self respect, even if you lose a .....................FRIEND. You have already lost the FIRST love!

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Idk if I do or not because she hates when I talk about girls or when I call her my ex. She gets quiet and in a pissy mood. She aaid she's not using me. She cares and still loves me. I feel like leaving everything behind and just starting a new life and name and etc.

So she keeps you from moving on until she can?

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So she keeps you from moving on until she can?

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Is that seriously it?. because that means women are ed up.

Women and men can be F'ed up... and selfish, and scared, and confused.

It will be easier to ignor her to get over her and if you don't show interested she's more likely to want you back then if she does come back its on her terms.

She doesn't want to be with you, but she doesn't want you to be with anyone else until she's moved on. That's the gist of it.

She's keeping you on a leash, a standby, just in case someone better doesn't come along, then at least she won't be alone.

That's a very selfish thing to do, and not fair to you.

Go no contact. Tell her that you need to move on, and accept that she doesn't want to be your girlfriend. She can't expect you to be her friend and continue to send you these mixed messages.

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She doesn't want to be with you, but she doesn't want you to be with anyone else until she's moved on. That's the gist of it.

She's keeping you on a leash, a standby, just in case someone better doesn't come along, then at least she won't be alone.

That's a very selfish thing to do, and not fair to you.

Go no contact. Tell her that you need to move on, and accept that she doesn't want to be your girlfriend. She can't expect you to be her friend and continue to send you these mixed messages.

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Two days ago she gave me a long hug and then kissed me and said she thinks she might be ready

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Two days ago she gave me a long hug and then kissed me and said she thinks she might be ready

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Ya, and when I was young, and controlling, I did the same thing to all the guys I wanted to keep in the wings, just in case I didn't find someone better.

She might be ready? What does that mean? It means, I'm not ready, I might be, I realize that you're getting frustrated and I don't want to lose my crutch, so I'll give you a reason to keep hoping, but it's really not going to happen.

Look, you can keep putting your life on hold and hoping, that's your choice. I'm just telling you that you're being a sucker. But really, if that's what you want, go for it. Be her sucker.

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Ya, and when I was young, and controlling, I did the same thing to all the guys I wanted to keep in the wings, just in case I didn't find someone better.

She might be ready? What does that mean? It means, I'm not ready, I might be, I realize that you're getting frustrated and I don't want to lose my crutch, so I'll give you a reason to keep hoping, but it's really not going to happen.

Look, you can keep putting your life on hold and hoping, that's your choice. I'm just telling you that you're being a sucker. But really, if that's what you want, go for it. Be her sucker.

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She just called me and said she wants to date again but we need to be trust worthy (were jealous)

Bro, why did she break up with you in the first place? Has that reason been addressed? I see no reason why this would be any different from the first time.

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Bro, why did she break up with you in the first place? Has that reason been addressed? I see no reason why this would be any different from the first time.

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She said all we did is fight then havw sex then fight again, it said it was unhealthy but now she stilled wanted to be qith me she just wanted me to calm down

Christianity is the problem...