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I had sex about a month ago (in a bath tub) with my 19 year old boyfriend (without a condom). I will be 16 in a week. :/
Lately I've been feeling sick, I've needed to go to the bathroom more, and I have frequent headaches and cramps. I'm not completely sure if I have missed my period yet because it's always different. Am I just paranoid? Or should I be concerned?
Yes, you could be pregnant. I'll alert some medical experts to answer you further.
Yes, bathtub sex is still sex. It is waiting time till you can take a test to be sure.
Thanks for your answer! (:
I can use all the help I can get!
Lately I've been feeling sick, I've needed to go to the bathroom more, and I have frequent headaches and cramps. I'm not completely sure if I have missed my period yet because it's always different. Am I just paranoid? Or should I be concerned? My boyfriend and I are engaged and have been together for a little over 2 years. He's completely committed so there's no worries there.
BUT I'll be 16 in a week...
And he's 19.
You're 15. You got engaged when you were 13? How do your parents feel regarding the sex and the engagement (and maybe becoming grandparents in 8 months)?
Do you and your fiancé have good jobs and insurance, a place to live, money saved up?
I PMed two experts who answer pregnancy questions. Both will see my PM when they sign on to the site. You will get good information from them.
You say he didn't ejaculate inside you. Did he use a condom? Or did he just "pull out" before ejaculation?
I'm trying to get as much info as possible, so the medical people will have the complete story when they sign on and see your question.
He "pulled out" :/
"Pulling out" is NOT birth control. It's about as effective as holding your breath. Please see a doctor or visit health clinic to get at least one form of real birth control -- and too many women will still get pregnant, even using more than one form.
Even if he didn't ejaculate inside, pregnancy is a possibility. Since you aren't sure about your period, try a test since you have been experiencing possible symptoms. Be sure to read the directions and follow them carefully. Three points that are particularly helpful: use first morning urine, make sure you have enough urine on the stick, and read the results in the time specified on the test.Quote:
Originally Posted by stupidone28
If negative... wait another week or two and test again if you still have symptoms but no period. You could always go to a pregnancy center, health department or your doctor but they will do a similar urine test anyway. Your period may just be off, although again you aren't certain about the timing, and you may be fighting an illness.
If you are pregnant, you'll have some decisions to make, one being getting a midwife or OB and starting prenatal care. Also you would want to start on a prenatal vitamin. If you aren't pregnant, which is more likely if things happened as you described, be very careful in the future to always, always use protection. There is no 100% safe time to avoid pregnancy. If you use a condom, make certain it is put on BEFORE there is any entry at all... as this is a common mistake people make, thinking it is OK to engage in sex for awhile and then put the condom on right before ejaculation.
p.s... just saw the part about parents not knowing... depending on where you live, because of your ages, he could be facing some serious legal problems... engaged or not. You need to be open and straight up with your parents. If you feel you are mature enough to be making these decisions, be mature enough to be honest with your family. Good luck!
Thanks for helping us out with your answers.
Do you go to school, or did you graduate early? If you're in school, what will happen when Baby arrives (if there is one)?
Did your fiancé graduate from high school? What kind of job does he have?
Please answer in the blank answer box at the bottom of the screen. Otherwise, your very helpful answers will "get lost" inside my question box.
I would never EVER be put on birth control. Too risky
I don't understand. Too risky for what?Quote:
stupidone28 : I would never EVER be put on birth control. Too risky
I'm still in high school :/ & if there IS a baby, I'll try to finish high school (at least) or if it comes down to it, I could get my GED as well.
And he got his GED and he works in construction.
To risky meaning that the longer you're on it, your chances increase to not be able to have children. Or so my mother told me. And I'd never want that to happen :(
I'm living proof that's not true. I have two wonderful, healthy children and took because pills before, during, and after. (My husband refused to have any more kids, so that's why I stopped having kids.) In fact, none of my fertile friends had any problems with births or conditions of children because they took because pills. And there are other kinds of birth control besides pills. And my experience was in the Dark Ages of birth control. Nowadays, birth control is sooooooooo improved and effective!Quote:
Originally Posted by stupidone28
Well maybe... but I'm still not too sure.
I still need to take a test. Maybe it's all in my head. I've been SUPER stressed lately. So could that be it?
I couldn't even finish reading all the things you are saying girlfriend! YOU ARE A BABY! You know NOTHING yet. Do you think it is fair to bring a child into this world and being raised off a K-Mart or Taco Bell salary? Wearing clothing from the goodwill to school? Do not take it wrong, but think about how aawful this poor baby's life will be? Do you really think you are going to be with the same person from 15 to 50? Not likely. You need to grow up. Birth Control isn't what is risky hunie, it's having sex unprotected at 15! Newsflash... pulling out doesn't work. And that is how I ended up pregnant at 17. Got married at 19, mortgage, nice cars, jobs, insurance... DIVORCED!! TOO YOUNG! Good luck!
Lately I've been feeling sick, I've needed to go to the bathroom more, and I have frequent headaches and cramps. I'm not completely sure if I have missed my period yet because it's always different. Am I just paranoid? Or should I be concerned? My boyfriend and I are engaged and have been together for a little over 2 years. He's completely committed so there's no worries there.
BUT I'll be 16 in a week...
And he's 19.
Stress and your emotions can certainly take a toll on your body. Be sure you follow Doula's instructions. She knows what she's talking about, and be sure to let us know what happens.
Well gee aren't you just a happy little burst of sunshine? We're two different people here and I like shopping at goodwill (thanks). Just because your relationship didn't work out doesn't mean mine will be like yours. Even if I was homeless, broke and alone, my baby would have a better life than more than half of the people in this world. Sorry to be rude but I'm serious. I understand all of this and I'm more grown up than I should be. (thats hard to explain/understand) But honestly, your comment was very unneeded. Sorry. ♥
I will (: thanks (:
Yes, stress can sometimes effect a cycle for some people. Some people do have problems with certain types of birth control, but these are the hormonal sort. Most women will have no problems with them, but some choose not to take any chances, and some find out later that they are not the best for them.Quote:
Originally Posted by stupidone28
There are other options, however, that do not involve hormones that can be used with no effect whatsoever on furture fertility. Do some research. A pregnancy at 16 also increases the risk of certain problems.
Best to be fully informed so that you can make an educated decision about something to vitally important... something that can have a direct change to your future. Since you are having sex, it would be wise to visit a gynecologist, if you haven't already. They will provide you with additional information about the various forms of birth control and what their risks, if any, may be. Please don't leave it to chance... it is too important and I'm sure you have plans and goals for the near future that do not include a baby if possible.
I totally agree, Doula. If stupidone28 is as grownup and mature as she says she is, she will do everything she can to protect her own health, especially her productive health, as well as the health of the children she has.Quote:
Originally Posted by DoulaLC
We could only guess the same as you, if you are having sex then of course you could be. The best way to find out would be a pregnancy test
All you can really do is take a test. Take one now. If it comes up negative, wait another week or two and take another test. I f you still have not had your period by then or if you are over a month since your last period, you should go to the doctor. Good luck
I guess we just wait for me to take a test then I suppose.
I need to get one :/
Already a thread about this.
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/pregna...nt-511394.html
Listen, I am not knocking anyone for going to the goodwill, I do too. You asked for advice and this is mine. Studies show that over 50% of marriages from young couples end in divorce. I was told this by the pastor that married us, hunie. And yes there will be other kids that have it worse, and that is very unfortunate. My kids grew up too fast and went through unnecessary hardship because I was young and immature. I so wish that I had gotten this advice from someone when I was your age. Kids are a blessing from God and they deserve the best. Stability is very important for a child, a home with working gas, elect, and water.. every month. Parents that know what to do in case of an emergency. Parents that can provide everything he/she will ever need in life. You are young, and I probably would have responded in that way too, but baby what I am saying is true. My mother was 16 when she had me and I grew up too fast and had a baby at 17, it is a cycle that I wish I had broken. I just hope more for my kids and I didn't set the bar very high. You have a chance to... DO IT PLEASE!
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stupidone28 : true. But this got me more answers now didn't it?
stupidone28 does not find this helpful : you're stupid
I think I am wasting my time with you. If you are acting like this it only proves that you are not mature enough to have a baby, you just want one to keep your boyfriend. I feel sorry for your baby if you do have one. You just wanted to hear that you are pregnant and you are going to be in love and together with this boy for the rest of your life... WAKE UP!
Grow up lady. Come on. I don't need a baby to keep my finance. Like some people do. & you can call me immature all you want, story of my life, who cares? I asked my question to get HELPFUL responses. Not for people to complain about their own lives. I really don't care how bad you've had it, and that's VERY unlike me. So please, save your sob story. <3
Sweetheart, I think I can help you. I deliver babies for a living so I know ALL about this.
First, taking birth control is less harmful for you than having a baby at your age. I'm not going to talk about being a single mom, or having no money to raise a child. I'm going to talk to you about your health risks being pregnant at your age.
At your age, if you are indeed pregnant, you have a high risk of developing a disorder during pregnancy called gestational diabetes. This form of diabetes comes during pregnancy and goes away after the baby is delivered. However, it puts you at a higher risk of developing Type II diabetes later in life. With this you have to prick your finger every day to get a blood sample to see if your sugar is high or low. If you get this, you may even have to give yourself a shot in the stomach everyday. It's called insulin. Also, if you get this, you will gain a LOT of weight and it will be hard to get rid of.
Next, at your age you have another high risk of getting PIH, which is short for Pregnancy Induced Hypertension, or high blood pressure during pregnancy. This can put you at risk for seizures. If this happens you have to have, most of the time, an emergency C-Section. Do you know what a C-Section is? If not, it's when they cut your stomach open to get the baby out.
Another risk is premature labor and delivery. This happens because you are giving all of your nutrients to your baby, but your own body is not done growing yet and you need those nutrients as well to grow into a healthy adult. Your body is not yet prepared to make a baby. If this happens, there is a risk that your baby will not be born healthy and may have to spend days, weeks, or months in a Neonatal Intensive Care Unit (NICU) and that can cost close to a million dollars before your baby is ready to come home.
Then, if you do have a premature delivery, when your baby does come home, there is a possibility of there being permanent physical or mental damage. That means that some babies have cerebral palsy and have to live in wheelchairs and some can have mental retardation.
Now, this doesn't happen to every teen that gets pregnant, but these are always possibilities.
I didn't even mention the fact that your boyfriend may have to go to prison because of the differences in your ages.
You have got to be the nastiest little teenager on earth. I shared my story with you to help you. You are being mean to anyone saying anything you don't like. And if you don''t like my sob story... GROW UP OR IT IS GOING TO BE YOURS TOO! I feel sorry for your mother.
I think this going back and forth between the two of you is enough. I don't think teen pregnancy is a good idea either, and yes, there are physical, emotional, and financial risks involved even more so than when an older adult that has an education becomes pregnant. But at this point, bashing the OP isn't going to help her or anything else. I'm not just trying to pick on you crys. Stupidone, you did post on the internet, that means opening yourself up to whatever comes your way, good, bad, hurtful, helpful. Part of being mature is being the bigger person and learning when it's best to ignore other people's thoughts and comments. Right now the OP just needs to find out whether she's pregnant and learn to use protection in the future if she wants to avoid pregnancy (which I'm hoping she does until she's older and has an education and stable job).Quote:
Originally Posted by crys27
This is all I was trying to get across to her. I understand her coming onto the internet for help because you do not want to expose yourself to people who know you and can talk about you or your parents find out. I am the kind of person who says what I think and I even try to sugar coat at times and it still comes out wrong. But when you get a child that only wants to hear what she wants to hear it is frustrating! VERY! The only way to tell if you are pregnant hunie is to take a test and learn from this experience. If you do not want to be pregnant and you find out you aren't, learn from this and stop having sex unprotected. You can go to your local Planned Parenthood for help, free pregnancy or STD testing and even birth control. But if a young girl wants a baby they will have one. It is sad because most of this stems from a bad home life and I just want to take in those young girls and show them a good life and hug them everyday until their world is good! Having a baby to keep a man or feel loved is what they do and I do understand it because I have been there. I know what low self-esteem is like, and getting pregnant as a teen and when I tried to help... it was my sob story. But I read your sob story and obviously felt something to say something. Bashing the people who are trying to help, no matter how they do it, is wrong because you are the one that asked. I do wish you the best and I am sure you will be capable of loving your child, if there is one. Just remember to ALWAYS put that baby FIRST, not you, not your man, not your family, not anyone or anything. Should you be pregnant, YOU will be the only one that is completely responsible, not the daddy, although he should be when many times they aren't these days. You will be the one that has to teach that child how to live and you are the one that MUST set a good example. Children are the MOST precious gift and if God chooses to bless you, DO NOT LET HIM DOWN!
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