this is the situation, I didn't had sex, I am still a virgin, I had period finished on the 4th of January, on the14th jan, my boyfriend,who is also a virgin,put his ****head into my vagina, but he didn't break the hymen,( is that the elastic vagina entrance wall?) he put in for few second without protection, but he didn't ejaculate,then he pull out, I heard the pre-ejaculation fluid contain sperms,and hymen doesn't help in preventing sperms from entering, I am not sure could I get pregnant just because of that,hope some experts could give me answer.asap. Thank you.. =)

Hi. Anytime there is any type of unprotected penetration even for a few seconds and with only the head of the penis entering the vagina pregnancy can occur, because your right pre-ejaculatoy fluid does have sperm and those little swimmers can find there way even with out regular ejaculation. Please sweetie, next time this happens always use a condom its essential not only to prevent pregnancy but to prevent any std'S

And if your boyfriend won't use one than he doesn't respect you and he isn't worth having sex with. You ddin't say if you were late or not. If you are call your doctor. The chances of getting pregnant by the way you described your situation isn't as common as if he completely pentrated and had a ejaculation, BUT and this is a big BUT it can still happen and its not worth the risk, trust me.

What should I do?

It is rear that you could get pregnant like this but then again there is always a chance that you may be as sperm may still be active ! I would say you need to go to your doctor and get the morning after pill to be on the safe side to ensure that you don't end up with a pregnancy.

As with the post above you and your boyfriend need to have safe sex as there are millions of std's around, but still I have to stress that not even condoms and so on can stop all std's. It's a good idear not to allow your boyfriend penis inside you unless he is wrapped

Well it depends, if you are already late then go to your doctor as soon as you can and have them do a pregnancy test, usually the ones at the doctors office are 100% accurate because they do it through blood testing. But if that isn't possible for you try then get a home pregnancy test, there are a little costly sometimes between $10 an $15 but its worth it to put your mind at ease. And they are very easy to take the directions are very clear on the box. Now on the other hand if you are only a day or two or three late it could be from stress and worrying about it, which is understandable. I have had plenty of pregnancy scares and a lot of the time it was from being stressed about being pregnant. Your body will delay mensturation uder stress. But if you don't get your period within a week after you were suppose to go get a test or make an appointment.

Now if you are not due to get your period yet, Then there isn't a whole lot you can do but wait. I hope I didn't scare you into thinking you were pregnant, you probably aren't but I just wanted you to be aware of the risks that you "can" get pregnant anytime there is unprotected sex invoved. Hope all goes okay.

How much time cound late? Does any pill help?
I am staying in russia, I don't know what to do here, I don't know the name of the pregnancy test thingy...

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Originally Posted by bizygurl

Hi. anytime there is any type of unprotected penetration even for a few seconds and with only the head of the penis entering the vagina pregnancy can occur, because your right pre-ejaculatoy fluid does have sperm and those little swimmers can find there way even with out regular ejaculation. Please sweetie, next time this happens always use a condom its essential not only to prevent pregnancy but to prevent any std'S

And if your boyfriend won't use one than he doesn't respect you and he isn't worth having sex with. You ddin't say if you were late or not. If you are call your doctor. The chances of getting pregnant by the way you described your situation isn't as common as if he completely pentrated and had a ejaculation, BUT and this is a big BUT it can still happen and its not worth the risk, trust me.

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Bizygurl, has given you wonderful advice, I hate to say it, because it bothers he to quote my grandfather. He famous line was” a little drop will do ya” there is nothing you can do at this point but wait and see, you could use it as a lesson learned, never have unprotected sex. Better yet you should wait until you are married. If you are ready to give up your life as you know it you are ready to have sex, baby make 3, and at your age baby will make 2, which would be you and the baby. ):

Actually being from Russia Im not sure of the kinds of services over there. You know what I would do? You must have a doctor that you see. I would make an appointment as soon as you can and have them do a pregnancy test. Or if it is too early for one, tell him or her what happened and see if they can give you a "morning after pill", if that is unavailable in your country than you may have to wait and see what happens and find out for sure if your pregnant or not.:o

A few days late of your period could be nothing, But if you are a week or more I would then go get a pregnancy test. Some woman are normally that late because for there cycles that's normal. But if that isn't normal for you then get one.

Is pregnancy test effective ? Does it able to detect pregnancy so soon only after 2 days of having sex?

It depends on what test you are taking, most tests measure the hormone that are related to the pregnancy, as far as I know you are going to have to wait more than two days. Generally it is recommended to wait until you first missed period.

A doctors test might but that still may be to soon to tell. A home pregnancy test willl definitely not be able to test that accurately that soon. I would at least wait until the week your period is due and go see a doctor. Unless your period is due this week you will have to wait. When is your next period due? It all depends on that and whether its too soon or not toget tested.

All the explanations and advice here has been super and should benefit you. Please keep in mind that if you are lucky enough not to be pregnant this time - USE A CONDOM - even if you get the pills, your boyfriend should respect you enough to understand that this world is too dangerous right now to play without protection.
There is another saying 'you play, you pay' - and in this case you can pay with your life - so be very careful from now on.

Good luck.
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- USE A CONDOM - even if you get the pills, your boyfriend should respect you enough to understand that this world is too dangerous right now to play without protection!

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Chery you took the words out of my gob, safe sex in this day and age is a must. If your boyfriend will not wear a condom, then you need to kick him to the side-walk and find a real guy that will respect you... Plus it will just show also that he is not mature enuff to be having sex anyway. One minutes fun can bring a life time of change.

How many percentage of getting pregnant in this situation? I had ask one of my senior friend who is soon be a doctor, he said the percentage is very small, 1 out of 100000 times,. is there still a need for me to worry so much about it..

How long does it takes the sign of pregnancy would appear?
Thanks for all of your advice

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how many percentage of getting pregnant in this situation? i had ask one of my senior friend who is soon be a doctor, he said the percentage is very small, 1 out of 100000 times,...is there still a need for me to worry so much about it..

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In cases like this, you should always imagine that you might just be that 1 little percent. Just be careful and stay safe from now on, please.

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is pregnancy test effective ? does it able to detect pregnancy so soon only after 2 days of having sex?

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Even though hCG levels may be detected on the first day of a missed period, the accuracy of a pregancy test is greatly improved when the test is done one week after a woman has missed her period. If you have irregular menstrual cycles, the test can be done 36 days after the first day of the last period. Waiting until the period is one week late allows for a natural delay in onset of the period, or a date miscalculation, reducing the need to repeat a test.

I saw some misinformation earlier that kind of bothered me. I did a lot of research on this a few months ago because I got worried, and found that precum(pre-ejaculatory fluid) does NOT (in most cases) carry sperm. The only instance that precum would have sperm in it is if he ejaculated recently and has not urinated since then. Urine kills sperm (no that doesn't mean have him in you then pee in you... that's both (probably) ineffective and unsanitary and... cmon... I don't think anyone wants to do that) so if he has urinated since the last time he came (be it minutes, hours, days ect) there should be NO sperm in his pre-. Of course, that doesn't make it OK, or anything. Always use protection, there are exceptions to every rule, you don't want to be a victim of those exceptions. There are a lot of assumptions you can make (very safely) but its safe-EST not to.
The pull out method is not effective

Cheers
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Originally Posted by bizygurl

Hi. anytime there is any type of unprotected penetration even for a few seconds and with only the head of the penis entering the vagina pregnancy can occur, because your right pre-ejaculatoy fluid does have sperm and those little swimmers can find there way even with out regular ejaculation. Please sweetie, next time this happens always use a condom its essential not only to prevent pregnancy but to prevent any std'S

And if your boyfriend won't use one than he doesn't respect you and he isn't worth having sex with. You ddin't say if you were late or not. If you are call your doctor. The chances of getting pregnant by the way you described your situation isn't as common as if he completely pentrated and had a ejaculation, BUT and this is a big BUT it can still happen and its not worth the risk, trust me.

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Big future note, SEX causes babies, and it only takes once. Now the more sperm the better the chance. Now odds are you are not, but then there is always a chance. Really is this how you want to remember a "special" time, always use a condom but better yet, why not just wait. Not only is getting pregnant a real worry but the deseases you can get now adays are a lot easier to get and all over the place.

Please consider the serious nature of early sex before you change your life completely

In response to your post ademan, I don't agree because that is how I got pregnant with my first daughter. We didn't use protection and he didn't have a ejaculation so the only other explanation was that the swimmies came from his preejaculatory fluid. I don't see how urine kills sperm. They use the same tract, but urine and pre and ejaculatory fluid come from two different places in the body. How can urine kill sperm? But even if your right, If a guy does pee after? Or before?(I forgot when you said) they have the pre ejaculatory fluid, There are a milloin if not more sperm in a few drops of ejaculatory fluid, how do you know that there isn't any? To me that's taking a big risk.

Plus my doctor told me when I found out I was pregnant that pregnancy can occur even if a man doesn't ejaculate, even with pre ejaculatory, its slim but can happen.
But we do agree to keep it safe and always protect yourself.

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In response to your post ademan, I don't agree because that is how I got pregnant with my first daughter. We didn't use protection and he didn't have a ejaculation so the only other explanation was that the swimmies came from his preejaculatory fluid. I don't see how urine kills sperm. They use the same tract, but urine and pre and ejaculatory fluid come from two different places in the body. How can urine kill sperm? But even if your right, If a guy does pee after? or before?(i forgot when you said) they have the pre ejaculatory fluid, There are a milloin if not more sperm in a few drops of ejaculatory fluid, how do you know that there isn't any? To me thats taking a big risk.

Plus my doctor told me when I found out I was pregnant that pregnancy can occur even if a man doesn't ejaculate, even with pre ejaculatory, its slim but can happen.
But we do agree to keep it safe and always protect yourself.

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Sorry babe, can't rate again!

I would so much like to see that article that states that urine kills sperm.. This is one of the most ridiculous excuses (probably coming from a guy) that I've heard yet, and in my years, I thought I heard it all. This really takes the cake! If this were really true, then it would be on the list of contraception - and it's not. Maybe the person who came up with this has been looking at the wrong sites and should look for legitimate medical and sex education sites instead of a 'fantasy site'. I'm printing this out for our three Urologists stationed here so that they can have a good laugh. UreaN (a pharmacuetical product from urine) works as a sun-blocker and heals some skin problems, so it is used in topical medicines, but I've never heard of it being used as a contraceptive. Even people working on the old steam-engines on railroads used their own urine to help heal areas that were burned by the steam and this worked. But again, urine as a contraceptive agent will have to be proven to me before I believe in this and any young lady who hears this stuff from a guy should run, not walk, away from him as fast as she can.

http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/10/10_1_103v.gif This is another way of 'killing sperm' - it works!

Here is a quote from a medical site that covers truths and myths of medical conditions - this one is under 'natural ways of contraception', but as you can see - they do NOT prevent pregnancies!

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Douching and Urination

Vaginal douching is the use of a liquid solution to wash out mucus and other types of bodily debris from a woman's vagina. Many women make regular douching a part of their routine for maintaining vaginal hygiene.
Regardless of whether a woman does it for hygienic reasons, vaginal douching does not work as a contraception method. During intercourse, active sperm can reach a woman's cervix and even the upper part of her uterus within 5 minutes of ejaculation. Douching after intercourse cannot be done soon enough to have any contraceptive benefits and the douching could force sperm higher up into the uterus. In addition, if a woman douches within a 6-8 hour period after using, for example, a spermicide, she will actually reduce the effectiveness of this contraceptive method.

Some women used to think that standing up and urinating immediately after sexual intercourse might reduce the chances of them becoming pregnant. They hoped that gravity might make it more difficult for sperm to swim "uphill" to the uterus and that the stream of urine running over their vaginal area would wash away sperm, similar to the process of douching. However, just like douching, urination after intercourse does not have any contraceptive value.

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Abstinence

Abstinence from sexual activity means not having any sexual intercourse at all. No sexual intercourse with a member of the opposite sex means that there is no chance that a man's sperm can fertilize a woman's egg.
A man or a woman can practice abstinence from sexual activity for a specific period of time, or continuously throughout one's lifetime. Abstinence is essentially 100% effective in preventing pregnancy. Another significant benefit of abstinence is that it markedly reduces the likelihood of contracting a sexually transmitted infection. In this context, abstinence means refraining from all vaginal, anal and oral sexual activity because sexually transmitted infections can be passed from one person to another in any and all of these ways. It should be noted that sexual activity such as mutual masturbation and touching of the other partner's genitals can, in some instances, transfer sperm during heavy mutual foreplay possibly leading to pregnancy. Oral sex will not cause pregnancy. However, if we are trying to prevent sexually transmitted infection, then any contact can transmit organisms, from kissing on down the line.

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NEED WE SAY MORE????


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Well, here are a few to begin with:

http://www.goaskalice.columbia.edu/0922.html
http://www.sexualhealth.com/question...nel=1&topic=20
A report on a scientific study, what you want is about smack dab in the middle of the paragraph
Yet another reliable source, what you want is the last paragraph
Wikipedia Entry, near the bottom

To name a few.
Cheers
-Dan

The pre-com clears the canal of urine because it is 'hostile' to sperm, but that does not mean it kills it. Also pre-com can also have sperm in it.

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Well, here are a few to begin with:

http://www.goaskalice.columbia.edu/0922.html
http://www.sexualhealth.com/question...nel=1&topic=20
A report on a scientific study, what you want is about smack dab in the middle of the paragraph
Yet another reliable source, what you want is the last paragraph
Wikipedia Entry, near the bottom

To name a few.
Cheers
-Dan

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not a bad site, and worth reading - all of it though, not just pick out what you think is best for an 'excuse'. As soon as I get the scope from our Urologists - I will post it.

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Ejaculate Issues Introduction:
Ejaculate, or “cum”, is comprised of sperm and the fluid (semen) in which it travels to leave the body. Sperm are produced in the testicles, and move to mature and be stored in the epididymis. Sperm are then transported up the vas deferens by hair-like projections called “cilia”. As they move forward, they meet up with semen. The fluids that make up semen come from several parts of the male reproductive system. The seminal vesicle secretes a high-energy fluid that “energizes” sperm so they can swim by themselves. The prostate secretes about 1/3 of seminal fluid. Shortly after a man gets an erection, the Cowper's glands secrete a small amount of fluid called “pre-ejaculate” or “pre-,” a fluid that cleans the urethra of urine, since urine is hostile to sperm. With each ejaculation, approximately 1½ to 2 teaspoons (amounts may vary) of semen is released, containing several hundred million sperm

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That's why nature prevents man from getting the urge to urinate during sex.

I don't remember using it as an "excuse", in fact I remember specifically saying that protection is essential no matter what, I'm just presenting facts from different sources. (of course, there are sources that say otherwise, but I found them, to be for the most part, far less convincing)

I don't mean for this to turn into a heated argument or anything, I just had heard otherwise and said so

Cheers
-Dan

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I dont remember using it as an "excuse", in fact i remember specifically saying that protection is essential no matter what, i'm just presenting facts from different sources. (of course, there are sources that say otherwise, but i found them, to be for the most part, far less convincing)

I dont mean for this to turn into a heated arguement or anything, I just had heard otherwise and said so

cheers
-Dan

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Did not imply that this was your excuse, and am aware that you are just curious, naturally so and conscious of the consequences, which is good. Half-information can be damaging though, and that's what we are sharing and communicating about. Can you imagine some guy thinking that urine really works? - this would mean someone would have to urinate inside before having sex - oh, what a thought!!

This is not a heated argument to me, just a debate and information sharing, and hope that you don't have hard feelings, as I certainly don't. The more education, the better - and none of us is too old to learn more.

Just wish more guys would ask questions before going out and ruining their lives thinking they already know everything.

The site you found is not a bad one and I will enjoy going through it, maybe even get a better insight of what guys ask now a days, as I'm from another decade and they had different questions then, and a lot less diseases. The articles about HIV/AIDS myth versus facts is a very good one to read, thanks for sharing.


http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/15/15_9_16.gifKeep those interesting questions coming. Everyone should be curious about everything till the day they die.

Ademan, thanks for all your information...
Chery, your right too.. Both your right...
I keep on thinking this, can't concentrate in my final.. I don't really know how to concentrate already, when I was going to sleep, this prob keep appearing in my mind... =(

By the way, in that case, my boyfriend is a virgin and he never masturbated before.. does it mean, most probably the preejaculatory fluid doesn't contain sperms?.

I don't think whether or not your boyfriend ever masturbated before or not has anything to do with having sperm in his preejaculatory fluid. I agree with you Chery but Im still skeptial about the no sperm in the fluid before ejaculation. I think its better just to at least say that there is because that is what most doctors would tell you.

Alrighty, I just had to put my 2 cents in on this pre ejaculatory issue. I was always under the impression that there are two different types of fluid. One containing fertile sperm and One that does not. I think I might have seen it on an episode of c.s.I. at one point in time. It is based on the genetic makeup of the male involved and it's a fifty fifty chance either way. Now that being the case if that is accurate then it seems that everyone is correct. With the exception of the urine thing. Although, the urine being hostile to sperm because it has ammonia in it could verywell kill the sperm in the upper urethra.(the tube that both sperm and urine travel to exit the body and I'm not sure I even spelled that right) That poses the question of what happens to the sperm left behind the connection tubes? It's still fertile and has not come into contact with the urine so if that then counts as the next pre fluid then all men weither gone to the bathroom or not would be fertile during the next sexual experience? Just a little food for thought.

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I don't think wether or not your bf ever masturbated before or not has anything to do with having sperm in his preejaculatory fluid. I agree with you Chery but Im still skeptial about the no sperm in the fluid before ejaculation. I think its better just to at least say that there is because that is what most doctors would tell ya.

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You're absolutely right, there is sperm in pre-ejaculate, just no more urine, as this gets cleared due to the hostility towards sperm. - the key was to get rid of the myth that urine can prevent pregnancies. Sorry if you read this wrong somewhere, but I did not wirte it - maybe the quotes just interpreted differently.

You know me 'sis', we agree on most all things on the 'motherhood or pregnancy' threads, because we know a lot and care!

Love, Chery

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;) Oh completely. We defenitly think the same. We are a lot alike.:D

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;) Oh completely. We defenitly think the same. We are a lot alike.:D

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You bet, sister! And we do make a difference too! That's why I'm proud to be a part of this 'family'.

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Awwww, sweetie pie honey bunch.lol! Its all true

Ok we can make most myths disappear... just not me... lol

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Ok we can make most myths dissapear.... just not me...lol

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No it is not, you have to wait at least 1 to 4 days before your period is due, because you have to wait for the pregnancy hormones to enter into your body and takes anyway from one wekk or so before your period is due. So until then a pregnancy test is useless until that time. GOOD LUCK WITH EVERYTHING!!
Tiffany

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No it is not, you have to wait at least 1 to 4 days before your period is due, because you have to wait for the pregnancy hormones to enter into your body and takes anyway from one wekk or so before yur period is due. So until then a pregnancy test is useless until that time. GOOD LUCK WITH EVERYTHING!!!!!!
Tiffany

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Welcome to the forum!
If the posts are so far away from the one you want to answer, place the person's name in the title bar, that way we all will know which post you are answering. Hope you enjoy your stay here and that we will all benefit. Looks like this is our lucky year for gaining new members.