I lost my virginity to my boyfriend a couple of weeks ago. It wasn't planned so we didn't use protection. Because of the amount of alcohol he had been drinking, he couldn't get hard but we had s*x anyway. It didn't last long 'cause his brother woke up so we stopped. I've been showing a lot of signs of pregnancy and was wondering if there is a chance I could be pregnant even though he didn't come.

Yes, there is still a chance since there is sperm in the early seminal fluid.

My friend wants me to take a pregnancy test but I don't have any money and my parents won't give me any unless I tell them what it's for.

Please understand that there is no way to tell whether you are pregnant without taking a pregnancy test. Is there a clinic near you that you could get to?

Nope.

How old are you?

13

You're 13? How old is your boyfriend?

Why are you having sex at 13?

Having sex at 13 with the boyfriend who was drinking and it happened where brother waking up stopped them. Sure hope the brother was not in the room.

The young impulse

Can your boyfriend help you pay for a pregnancy test? Have you missed a period yet?

There's a search engine at this site:
Family Planning Association where you can find contraceptive services specifically for young people.
It looks like there are several resources in Belfast, very close to Antrim which is listed as your location.

While you visit one of these clinics, there should be a counselor to discuss sex with you, its implications, and how to be safe. Please use these resources

Here's there phone:

FPA helpline Northern Ireland

0845 122 8687
9am to 5pm Monday to Friday (except bank holidays)

Well, honey... your BOYFRIEND, who OBVIOUSLY can afford a child since he's having SEX with you (and dear god, you are still a child yourself) can OBVIOUSLY also afford a pregnancy test.

I suggest you get yourself on the pill if you find you are not pregnant. The best way for it to work is to hold the pill between your knees at all times so that your legs stay closed.

I'm not sure which angers me more, that you are having sex at 13 or that at 13 you are drinking so heavily that you have unplanned sex.

Hopefully you are not pregnant, but the only way you will be able to tell is taking a test or seeing a doctor.

But I'm hoping this may be a wakeup call for you. You need to get control over your life because you are headed in the wrong direction. Stop drinking, at least until you are old enough (an adult) to handle it. Stop having sexual intercourse until you are ready to have a baby.

This is just too sad.

Okay, I know it shouldn't have happened and, I wasn't drinking. My boyfriend's 17 and I know he can afford a test but I don't want to tell him I think I might be pregnant. My best friend is back from camp on Friday and really wants me to get a test so, she said she'd buy it. To those who helped, thanks.

No, his brother was in his own room.

OK, age of consent in Ireland is 17. So, my young friend, you were raped. I don't know how long you have been with this boy but he took advantage of you. It is illegal for hm to have sex with you.

As I said, you need to change your ways. If you are not pregnant get rid of this abuser.

I know it's illegal and I know it's counted as rape but, I don't want to get rid of him. I'm not going to say I love him because I know whay you'll say but I really like him and I care about him.

But does he care about you? You didn't answer how long you have been with him. My take is he is just using you for sex. Maybe that's why he got drunk, to build up the courage to rape you. But as soon as he started drinking you should have left.