He only hit me 1 time and that was my fault as I made him mad and he had a hard day
He will get mad when he finds outs that I have told my mum and dad when he told me not too but I understand why I have to as I do not want the baby to have birth defects

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Originally Posted by amy 132

he only hit me 1 time and that was my fault as i made him mad and he had a hard day
he will get mad when he finds outs that i have told my mum and dad when he told me not too but i understand why i have to as i do not want the baby to have birth defects

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It's never your fault. Did you form his hand into a fist and grab his arm and hit yourself with his hand? If the answer to that question is no, then it's not your fault.

This boy is manipulative, controlling and abusive. Plain and simple.

He hit you once. Next time he will choke you, give you a black eye, etc. The first "hit" is the easiest, it gets worse after that.

He said he never hurt me agrain and he was sorry about it after

That's what most abusers say. It's the apology phase of abuse.

He OK most of the time really
And he was OK when I told him about the baby he just said he wanted me to wait a little time before I tell anyone but I am going to tell my mum and dad today and he will not be happy with that when he finds but I want the best for the baby

Who cares if he's happy? He's not going to be there to support you anyway. You will be alone supporting this child without him. I can promise you that.

So what if he get's mad? You need to have a healthy baby and you may not if you listen to this arse.

It's after noon in the UK. Have you told your parents yet? Have you told them that he's hit you?

Do us all a favor and get off the computer and tell your parents, then come back after you have talked to them.

They are down in the living room now so I will go and tell them now and they don't know that he hit me as he said it best they did not know as they break us . They will if they know
Thank you for the help I will go and tell them now
Amy

For your health I truly hope they will break you up.

I told my mum and dad they were both really mad and my dad as walked out and not seen him for hours but my mum was upset but she was kind of OK with it after a few hours and she is beening really great about it
I did not say anything about him hitting me as that have made it worst and all as my mum wants me to break up with him and nothing more to do with him but just so glad that my mum is sort of OK about it but my dad gone off somewhere as he was mad about it
Thanks for all the help
Amy

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i told my mum and dad they were both really mad and my dad as walked out and not seen him for hours but my mum was upset but she was kind of ok with it after a few hours and she is beening really great about it
i did not say anything about him hitting me as that have made it worst and all as my mum wants me to break up with him and nothing more to do with him but just so glad that my mum is sort of ok about it but my dad gone off somewhere as he was mad about it
thanks for all the help
amy

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And who is paying for the abortion AND what means of birth control are you going to sue AFTER the abortion (or childbirth or whatever you choose). Has the knowledge that you were underage and this is legal rape "struck" your parents?

My mum said that she pay for the abortion when I have it as she does not want me to having a baby at 16 and after that I do not know what birth contal I will get but I will have a look at some
She as not said anything really about my boyfriend apart from she wants us to end now but I do not as I love him too much to do that when it was me that was OK with everything
My dad that gone off and not come home yet as I want to talk to talk but he turn his phone off etc etc just wish he understand I little more

Your dad is coming to come back around, its just going to take some time. Because... yes he's upset you are his little girl... and always will be. If you ever doubted how much he cares about you... the fact he's upset over this is all the proof you need. Moms and dads get upset in different ways... only moms are a bit better at dealing with it most times.

Listen to them... take their advice. You need them both now more than ever... unlike this other guy... they really do have your best interests at heart. Remember they have a lot of experience in the world you don't have yet.

My mum wants me to break up with my boyfriend and have a abortion
But I want to still be with him and in someways keep the baby as well but she said that she wants this all over with and that I's be better over without him and the baby but I was thinking that if I keep the baby that I guess I might be a good mum to the baby without my boyfriend in the baby life or my life

Having ANYTHING to do with him is dumb... seriously... he is a loser... if you stick with losers you will never have anything and will be dirt poor your entire life... if he doesn't hurt or kill you first.

I'm a guy... I can spot other guys like that... I've seen so many over my life its not hard to do... and I have no emotional interest here... I'm being completely objective with what I know about him... and he has all the characteristics of an abuser. You can't see them because of your emotional involvement... but your mom is giving you very good advice.

I don't want to let him go as he always been around me for years more as a mate before we got together and all
I am going to see what my mum says about keeping the baby and see if my dad will come around to the idea of it and start talking to me

So then this guy will get mad about something and "accidentally" push you down hard, maybe down the stairs, and oooops, you lose the baby (and end up in the hospital with a broken arm or leg or a concussion too). I'm sorry, but your boyfriend is dangerous to your health. If he hit you once and got away with it, it will happen again, believe me. And he will again make you believe it was your fault.

He never gone to hit me agrain just got mad and walked out and I do make him mad as most of the time he is really nice and kind to me and everyone when we are out together

Of course he will hit you again. You will do something to make him mad (that will be his excuse), and he will blame you for his lack of self control.

Yes welcome to being trained to be a abused spouse, they get you to believe it is your fault and even deserve it, And as most they do it again and again but when it is over tell you they are sorry, won't do it again, and the women all bruised up forgives them, It may be a broken arm but the man forgives her for not being able to cook his meals for him. Since it is all her fault.

The hitting just gets worst and worst.

I just want him to be happy with me and me with him and are baby to have a good life to if he wants me to have the baby