 |
He only hit me 1 time and that was my fault as I made him mad and he had a hard day
He will get mad when he finds outs that I have told my mum and dad when he told me not too but I understand why I have to as I do not want the baby to have birth defects
It's never your fault. Did you form his hand into a fist and grab his arm and hit yourself with his hand? If the answer to that question is no, then it's not your fault.Quote:
Originally Posted by amy 132
This boy is manipulative, controlling and abusive. Plain and simple.
He hit you once. Next time he will choke you, give you a black eye, etc. The first "hit" is the easiest, it gets worse after that.
He said he never hurt me agrain and he was sorry about it after
That's what most abusers say. It's the apology phase of abuse.
He OK most of the time really
And he was OK when I told him about the baby he just said he wanted me to wait a little time before I tell anyone but I am going to tell my mum and dad today and he will not be happy with that when he finds but I want the best for the baby
Who cares if he's happy? He's not going to be there to support you anyway. You will be alone supporting this child without him. I can promise you that.
So what if he get's mad? You need to have a healthy baby and you may not if you listen to this arse.
It's after noon in the UK. Have you told your parents yet? Have you told them that he's hit you?
Do us all a favor and get off the computer and tell your parents, then come back after you have talked to them.
They are down in the living room now so I will go and tell them now and they don't know that he hit me as he said it best they did not know as they break us . They will if they know
Thank you for the help I will go and tell them now
Amy
For your health I truly hope they will break you up.
I told my mum and dad they were both really mad and my dad as walked out and not seen him for hours but my mum was upset but she was kind of OK with it after a few hours and she is beening really great about it
I did not say anything about him hitting me as that have made it worst and all as my mum wants me to break up with him and nothing more to do with him but just so glad that my mum is sort of OK about it but my dad gone off somewhere as he was mad about it
Thanks for all the help
Amy
Quote:
Originally Posted by amy 132
And who is paying for the abortion AND what means of birth control are you going to sue AFTER the abortion (or childbirth or whatever you choose). Has the knowledge that you were underage and this is legal rape "struck" your parents?
My mum said that she pay for the abortion when I have it as she does not want me to having a baby at 16 and after that I do not know what birth contal I will get but I will have a look at some
She as not said anything really about my boyfriend apart from she wants us to end now but I do not as I love him too much to do that when it was me that was OK with everything
My dad that gone off and not come home yet as I want to talk to talk but he turn his phone off etc etc just wish he understand I little more
Your dad is coming to come back around, its just going to take some time. Because... yes he's upset you are his little girl... and always will be. If you ever doubted how much he cares about you... the fact he's upset over this is all the proof you need. Moms and dads get upset in different ways... only moms are a bit better at dealing with it most times.
Listen to them... take their advice. You need them both now more than ever... unlike this other guy... they really do have your best interests at heart. Remember they have a lot of experience in the world you don't have yet.
My mum wants me to break up with my boyfriend and have a abortion
But I want to still be with him and in someways keep the baby as well but she said that she wants this all over with and that I's be better over without him and the baby but I was thinking that if I keep the baby that I guess I might be a good mum to the baby without my boyfriend in the baby life or my life
Having ANYTHING to do with him is dumb... seriously... he is a loser... if you stick with losers you will never have anything and will be dirt poor your entire life... if he doesn't hurt or kill you first.
I'm a guy... I can spot other guys like that... I've seen so many over my life its not hard to do... and I have no emotional interest here... I'm being completely objective with what I know about him... and he has all the characteristics of an abuser. You can't see them because of your emotional involvement... but your mom is giving you very good advice.
I don't want to let him go as he always been around me for years more as a mate before we got together and all
I am going to see what my mum says about keeping the baby and see if my dad will come around to the idea of it and start talking to me
So then this guy will get mad about something and "accidentally" push you down hard, maybe down the stairs, and oooops, you lose the baby (and end up in the hospital with a broken arm or leg or a concussion too). I'm sorry, but your boyfriend is dangerous to your health. If he hit you once and got away with it, it will happen again, believe me. And he will again make you believe it was your fault.
He never gone to hit me agrain just got mad and walked out and I do make him mad as most of the time he is really nice and kind to me and everyone when we are out together
Of course he will hit you again. You will do something to make him mad (that will be his excuse), and he will blame you for his lack of self control.
Yes welcome to being trained to be a abused spouse, they get you to believe it is your fault and even deserve it, And as most they do it again and again but when it is over tell you they are sorry, won't do it again, and the women all bruised up forgives them, It may be a broken arm but the man forgives her for not being able to cook his meals for him. Since it is all her fault.
The hitting just gets worst and worst.
I just want him to be happy with me and me with him and are baby to have a good life to if he wants me to have the baby
"He" is not part of this equation any longer. He doesn't want the baby and has already hit you, opening the door wide to hit you again and again. Tell your mom that he hit you. You owe her that tidbit of information.
She will tell my dad that will make him more mad at me for not telling him to start with
If I do tell her about it that why I did not say anything today to her and dad when I told them about the baby as I did not want my boyfriend to get into anything about it
WG, you're talking to a brick wall - and, of course, it's pretty obvious that I believe none of this, that this in the category of being strung along.
I hope I'm wrong - spidey senses. This is just not playing out for me -
For example - she was underage. She's pregnant. She's now 16. I can't believe HER parents didn't get the news and immediately call HIS parents (using loud voices).
Do you think they would not have noticed you were pregnant at some point? Have you seen a prenant woman in her last trimester? A blind person would notice it.
You won't have a good life with him.. how could you, he doesn't even have a full time job to support himself much less you AND the baby... Babies are expensive... Wives are expensive... living a decent much less a GOOD life is expensive... That takes not just a full time job... but a very good full time job, the kind of thing he's not capable of right now... or maybe ever.
But like we have to eventually say to people who just will NOT listen.
Don't come back and whine later... because WE TOLD YOU SO... and you didn't listen.
And girls in your current situation, that don't listen to others... ALWAYS regret the choices they make than the years they've lost before they come to their senses... by then all the good men are married... or married and divorced and have kids of their own, alimoney, child support... etc, etc... etc. And its too late for the life you want because you missed the chance when you had it.
You noticed that too? But she loves him.Quote:
Originally Posted by JudyKayTee
It's a hot summer day and the cats are asleep, the crossword puzzle is finished, and the chicken salad for a light supper has been made. Her "broken record" is the tip-off, isn't it.Quote:
of course, it's pretty obvious that I believe none of this, that this in the category of being strung along.
I hope I'm wrong - spidey senses. This is just not playing out for me -
Hi.. what you could do is tell your boyfriend first..
Once you and your boyfriend have decided you are well prepared for this baby, then its time for the parents. You and your boyfriend should go together and sit down with your parents.. and tell them that way. Make sure they know that you and your boyfriend are prepared and will support each other all the way.
Apart from having sex, your parents will worry about whether your boyfriend will support you and will not just run away! Once they know that he is there for you, it won't be so bad for them
So it's time to find out what your boyfriend wants...
Did you read the entire thread? The boyfriend has already physically abused her and doesn't want her to tell her parents until he has "thought about this for a few weeks." You are talking about a normal, rational couple expecting a baby. This is not the case in this thread.Quote:
Originally Posted by Ipodtouch
Quote:
Originally Posted by Wondergirl
All right calm down.. No I did not read the entire thread.. only the question...
Please ignore my comment
Quote:
Originally Posted by Ipodtouch
You couldn't be any more disrespectful it you tried. Calm down?
I realize you are relatively new here so everyone will probably cut you some slack for a brief period.
Quote:
Originally Posted by Ipodtouch
Think how much time we could all save if we didn't bother reading the thread.
You do realize that this was legal rape, that he abuses her, that he works part time?
Quote:
Originally Posted by Wondergirl
Yes, I predict this will go on and on.
Chicken salad? I settled for bbq ribs on the deck. It was more about the deck and less about bbq. MY dogs have been awake all day long. They will S-L-E-E-E-E-E-E-P well tonight. One of us is going to "try out" doggie half-day day care on Wednesday.
What was I talking about? Right, if this is for real I get that she loves him. Maybe he's the only male in Town in that particular age bracket. I just can't believe her parents haven't called his parents - screaming - and OP is so calm. Oh, well.
She enjoys getting beaten, some people are into that you know.
Quote:
Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck
Well, and if a beater meets a beatee it works out very well.
We could chip in and buy them whips and chains for a wedding present. Maybe some leather gear... unless latex is their thing.
| All times are GMT -7. The time now is 12:46 PM. |