I think we have a junior Masochist in love with an abusive sadist...

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Originally Posted by amy 132

no i was the one that made him mad that it all
he said sorry the next day and that he never hurt me agrain
i am seeing him in about a hour so i am going to tell him about the baby and see what he thinks about it all

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You better have someone with you (meaning at least being around a lot of people... because he did it once... it will only be easier a second time... he'll make you believe its YOUR fault you got pregnant even though he didn't even use a condom.

I do not think he will hurt me he might get mad at me for getting pregnant but I am hoping he will be OK with it

You better tell your family too...

Honestly I've known too many losers like him... you are in danger anytime you are with him... no matter what supposedly made him mad before... this is going to be far wose because it means he will owe you half of everything he makes far at least the next 18 years for child support... and likely even longer in the UK. Does he even have a job?

That why I think that having a abortion will be better then keeping the baby as he will never be happy about it and more then likely go off when he finds out but I want him to know as he is the dad
Yes he as a part time job

This gets worse and worse -

I'll ask again - who is paying for the abortion?

Part time job... not even good enough to get a full time job... real good pick in guys there... can't even get his own place with that... could probibly fit everythign he owns in a bag.

You still don't understand a word of what everyone here has been telling you...

Well every society needs someone to do the nasty low paying jobs nobody else will do... and she's on a fast track to being that person.

It will be me as it's my fault that I am pregnant

Yes right...


Clearly not the sharpest pencil in the cup.

I'm torn between passive-aggressive, not the sharpest knife in the drawer and a troll.

Still deciding.

The question of who will pay for this surgery is apparently never going to be answered and so -

In order to end the pain I will vote yes, it is your fault.

Smoothy agrees with me.

Now if WG agrees it's 3 out of 3.

At best it's 2 out of 3 and the "yes, it's your fault" side wins.

Maybe we could all chip in and send a check (cheque)?

No it my fault no need to tell me that I know it
I am going to see what he says tonight when he comes over and go from that

Have been thinking -- it might really be MY fault. It's as much mine as it is yours, Amy.

I think the stagnant British and European Economy is her fault too... maybe we should inform the British Prime Minister?

You know what I mean by it being my fault
That he will get in jail or like that if anyone finds out etc

No, the economy problems are MY fault. Amy had nothing to do with that.

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Originally Posted by amy 132

you know what i mean by it being my fault
that he will get in jail or like that if anyone finds out ect

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Who did something to make jail a possibility?

Going to meet him now to tell him
Thank you everyone for your help
Amy

I guess there is even more to this than she's admitting to.

Maybe something we said will sink into her head before he shows up... but I'm not holding my breath. You have to want help and accept it for any advice to have value.

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Originally Posted by amy 132

it my fault as he asked me if i wanted to when his parents were away and i said yes as he had been on about for some time and i did not want him to go as i love him and he loves me
i know what i did was silly but i do not want him to get done for it as it not his fault

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This just confirmed what smoothy was saying. He has been asking for sex for some time, and you felt you would lose him if you didn't give in. But you were under age (the age of consent in the UK is 16. Plus since he was 18 that makes it worse). That means that you couldn't not legally consent and he should have known better.

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Originally Posted by amy 132

it will be me as it's my fault that i am preg

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No it is NOT your fault. He refused to use protection. He coerced you. You were underage. So the fault lies mostly with him.

I agree with the others, as soon as he can latch unto some other girl, he will. Even if you did get an abortion and no one ever knows about it, eventually he will tire of you.

I hope I'm wrong, but I doubt it. Your first clue will be what happens tonight when you tell him.
If he offers to stand by you or even pay for the abortion, those will be good signs. But if he gets mad at you, especially if he throws you out, you will know that he doesn't care about you and you are better off without him.

In that situation you need to tell your parents and report his rape to the police.

Let us know how things go.