My prenatal gave me a sheet of what to worry about and I have noticed a couple things that are almost the same as the sheet says like seeing spots, I see white spots all the time and I have bad headache's but that's normal for me I have felt bad pains in my lower stomch and I am only 7 months pregnant I have bad hot flashes and I have a lot of pains. Should I see my DR about this or is it something I shouldn't be worried about?

Are there shelters around there you can go to? Does your mother know you are having a baby? What about friends?

Yes, you should see your doctor. Your blood pressure needs to be checked as these are symptoms of Pregnancy Induced Hypertension.

OK thank you

My mom knows yes and so dose my dad and I think if I decide ill move ith my dad

You said you and your dad are not close anymore. Will you be able to go there?
I think you need to make up your mind very soon, like before that baby is born. This situation will only get worse once the baby is born.

You dad and I are not that close but we are talking and getting things back to the way it was. And you I might go back

I think you should. This is not only about you. There is this baby to consider. Where you are is not a good environment.

Tell him he has to be serious about this relationship. You guys have a baby on the way and he needs to grow some balls, and learn how to treat a woman. If you are having a son, he needs to show your son how to be a man and how to be treated. And if you have a daughter he needs to think about how he would like it if a guy was cheating on HIS daughter the way he did to you.

You I did but that as around when I was 4 to 5 months pregnant

And yes I agree ill talk to him and tell him where to and how to get there

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and yes i agree ill talk to him and tell him where to and how to get there

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That's good. If your dad is willing to take you, go with him and make sure this guy pays child support. Keep us posted. I wish you a healthy and happy baby.

I have been following your posts and think the others are right on when they tell you that this is an unhealthy stressful relationship, and a 7 month pregnant female should have nothing but love and support through this time.

Hope you and your dad can get to that point because the baby daddy and his family don't appear willing or capable to give you what you need.

My other concern is bringing a child into this world in such a toxic relationship. I feel sorry for the child who WILL be unloved.

The daddy will not love the child as he does not love the mother, and the mother (the OP) will become resentful of the child. I see it time and time again.

Maybe it's time to rethink keeping this child.

I am going to keep my son, I was loved and rased pretty much buy myself and I yes made a fue mestakes but I will and am taking care of my son the way I couldn't be loved. My son is my world and nothing will ever change that yes I am young but my son (name removed) will be rased loved and treated right I promise you that

And how are you going to support this child you've already named - and posting that name info on a public site is foolish and dangerous.

As Judy mentioned posting real names is foolish and dangerous, so I removed it.

You've already acted foolishly and immaturely by getting pregnant at a young age. I am very sure you feel a great deal of love and high hopes for this child. But unless you were born into a wealthy family, you are condemning this child to a disadvantaged childhood. Loving him is all well and good, but if you can't provide for him, love just ain't enough.

I'm not saying he will turn into an axe murderer or even that he will turn out badly. But the odds are against him from the start. At the very least, he may grow up resenting you for not being able to provide the things his friends have.

You are sentencing your child to the life you are leading -

I am trying that's all hat matters

We are talking about a baby, trying is not all that matters. You have to "do" If you are set on keeping your son, you need to stay with your dad and he has to be willing to help you with your son. The father of this child needs to be made to pay child support. Did you graduate high school? If not you need to look into finishing school. This is going to be hard, It's going to take more than just trying.

I am going to go back to school and I have a job I go to all my apponments and I am talking to my dad about moving with him OK

Talking with your dad is good. I hope things work out with him because having this baby in the situation you're in is not good. I'm sure you are not making enough money at your job to properly care for this child, You need to make sure the courts have set up child support from the father.