Ask Me Help Desk - Conception--who's the daddy?

Yeah I know I won't be 100% sure until a dna test is done, its just that I went 6 to 7 months knowing for sure that the ultrasound dating conception was right, and no chance the baby could be mine... however with this new info, I'm having doubts and a restless mind. Crap! A few more months to go... it will take forever. I mean I want to be prepared just in case the baby is mine, but at the same time I can't because it's a higher chance he/she is not. Well no choice but to wait... thanks again for your advice.

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Originally Posted by Alty

And that's another issue. There's no way to know when she conceived, unless she's 100% sure of when she ovulated. It's all a guess.

You still seem to be grasping at straws. Really, there's no way you're going to get any answers until the baby is born and a DNA test is done.

You can go round and round with this for the next few months, and you still won't know who the father is until the DNA test comes back.

Yeah I know I won't be 100% sure until a dna test is done, its just that I went 6 to 7 months knowing for sure that the ultrasound dating conception was right, and no chance the baby could be mine... however with this new info, I'm having doubts and a restless mind. Crap! A few more months to go... it will take forever. I mean I want to be prepared just in case the baby is mine, but at the same time I can't because it's a higher chance he/she is not. Well no choice but to wait... thanks again for your advice.

Update 8-19

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Originally Posted by Alty

It's not that long to wait. I know it's hard. But it will fly by. Then you can get the DNA test, and hopefully move on with your life.

Let us know how it goes, and good luck. :)

Update, the doctor change her due date from sept.3 to now sept 17. She has been measuring 2 weeks behind since the 2 trimester. Is it normal to change the due date just being 2 weeks off by measurement. Every week now she have an appointment to go too.

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Originally Posted by badley

update, the doctor change her due date from sept.3 to now sept 17. she has been measuring 2 weeks behind since the 2 trimester. is it normal to change the due date just being 2 weeks off by measurement. every week now she have an appointment to go too.

It's not common to change a date, but it's not unheard of either. It's done to insure fetal/maternal well being. Dates can change due to measurements because these measurements give us an idea of how far along the fetus is in development.

Delivery can actually happen two weeks before or two weeks past the due date. Extending the due date can insure proper fetal lung development.

As noted all along, dates are estimates based on information given, and development of the fetus. So as noted, when the baby is born you do a DNA test,

Hi bradley I'm in the same boat sleep less nights and worring I had sex with my ex November 28 4 months later she calls me saying its mine but she was with another guy her boyfriend the same month till he left in march she is due sep 12 2012 numbers don't add up but my mom has been going with her to all app I'm going to take a dna test because I don't think its mine... bradley can you give me a update on your issue please thank yhou

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Originally Posted by J_9

It's not common to change a date, but it's not unheard of either. It's done to insure fetal/maternal well being. Dates can change due to measurements because these measurements give us an idea of how far along the fetus is in development.

Delivery can actually happen two weeks before or two weeks past the due date. Extending the due date can insure proper fetal lung development.

Thanks for everyone's response, another question... being that she is measuring 2 weeks behind since her 2nd trimester, does that have any impact on the conception date? Meaning did she conceive later than predicted, or measuring behind don't impact the conception date at all?

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Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck

As noted all along, dates are estimates based on information given, and development of the fetus. So as noted, when the baby is born you do a DNA test,

Thanks, yeah I can't wait to have a dna test done. I'm just eager to learn what are the chances before the dna test. Only 4 more weeks to go.

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Originally Posted by drcapola

hi bradley im in the exact same boat sleep less nights and worring i had sex with my ex november 28 4 months later she calls me saying its mine but she was with another guy her bf the same month till he left in march she is due sep 12 2012 numbers dont add up but my mom has been going with her to all app im going to take a dna test because i dont think its mine..... bradley can you give me a update on your issue please thank yhou

Well by my ex first ultrasound, her 40th week was sept.1-3 and 42nd week sept. 17. Somewhere along her 2nd trimester, the doctor change her 40th week to sept. 17 due to 2 weeks behind in measurement.

Do you think its possible to be mine bradley if the last contact was 11/28/11 with edd of 09/12/12?

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Originally Posted by drcapola

Do you think its possible to be mine bradley if the last contact was 11/28/11 with edd of 09/12/12?

Are you asking the OP if the baby is yours?

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Originally Posted by drcapola

Do you think its possible to be mine bradley if the last contact was 11/28/11 with edd of 09/12/12?

It doesn't matter what badley thinks. What matters is what the DNA test results are.

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Originally Posted by J_9

It doesn't matter what badley thinks. What matters is what the DNA test results are.

Hey I'm no expert... im in the same boat waiting for a dna test.

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Originally Posted by J_9

It doesn't matter what badley thinks. What matters is what the DNA test results are.

I really need to find a way for my body to accept coffee.

I thought the poster was asking if the baby in Badley's post is his, not Badley's.

I thought we had another potential father for Badley's situation.

Another question... being that she is measuring 2 weeks behind since her 2nd trimester, does that have any impact on the conception date? Meaning did she conceive later than predicted, or measuring behind don't impact the conception date at all?

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Originally Posted by badley

another question...being that she is measuring 2 weeks behind since her 2nd trimester, does that have any impact on the conception date? meaning did she conceive later than predicted, or measuring behind don't impact the conception date at all?

Measuring isn't an exact science. Sadly, nothing in pregnancy is exact. Everything is a best guess. A guess based on science, but a guess nonetheless.

Let me put it this way. When I was pregnant with my son I was sent for an ultrasound the week before my due date. They were worried because I was measuring small. The concern was that I was low on amniotic fluid. So I went for the ultrasound. At that time they determined that the fluid was fine, but they also told me that the baby was already over 9 pounds, with a week to go to my due date.

My son was born 4 days past his due date, and he weighed in at 8 pounds 2 1/2 ounces. A far cry from 9 plus pounds.

The measuring, the ultrasounds, everything, it's a best guess.

I know you're stressing about this, but you really have to do yourself a favor and stop looking at every small thing trying to prove that the baby isn't yours. There really is no way to know other than a DNA test. No one has found another way to determine paternity. Trust me, you won't be the one to find it.

I appreciate your advice, but its just a question... does measuring 2 weeks behind affect predicted conception date? Measurement is from ultrasound and her amniotic fluid is fine. I will still get a dna test... just curious about this question that's all.

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Originally Posted by badley

i appreciate your advice, but its just a question...does measuring 2 weeks behind affect predicted conception date? measurement is from ultrasound and her amniotic fluid is fine. i will still get a dna test...just curious about this question that's all.

The answer is that it can, and it can't. They judge conception by the last menstrual cycle, supposed ovulation date (that's a guess), ultrasound (another guess based on growth etc), measurement (another guess). Yes, they're educated guesses, but a two week change in conception date is very common. Like I said, it's 2 weeks either way. Only 10% of women deliver on their due date, 45% deliver within 2 weeks before, and 45% deliver within 2 weeks later. It's all a guess. An educated guess, but a guess base don averages. Most people aren't average.

Okay... thanks