Yes, he does care about e and we've been together for 2 years. And it wasn't rape. He asked before it happened if I was sure about it.

If you feel like you should wait until Friday when your friend gets into town AND she really does buy you the test, then good, take that test.

If you're NOT pregnant (which I really hope is the case for your sake), you MUST talk to your boyfriend about how you wish to proceed. Sex is an adult thing and if you think you're ready then you need to be ready for adult responsibilities. So...

What will you do as a couple if you become pregnant?
How will you financially support a family?
Where will you live?
What protection will you use during future sexual intercourse and how will you pay for it?

Babies are expensive, and no matter how safe you think you're having sex, a baby CAN and HAS result(ed).

I'm not trying to be mean or patronize you right now, I'm trying to make sure you realize just how serious this could get for you. You're still a child yourself, after all.

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Originally Posted by confused_turtle

Yes, he does care about e and we've been together for 2 years. And it wasn't rape. He asked before it happened if I was sure about it.

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Sorry, but it WAS rape. You are under age and can't legally consent.

I feel a little better about this that you have been with him 2 years, it indicates that he is not just using you for sex. But on the other hand why were you in a relationship at 11?? I know you feel for him, but you have no experience or ability to truly judge this because you started this way too young.

And there is still the fact that he got drunk at 17. I would strongly you urge you to put a hold on this relationship. Maybe see other people (though at 13 I think you are still too young to date). You can always get back together if you find you do have real feelings for each other.

I wasn't 11 I had just turned 12, so not really 2 years but almost 2 years. He was drunk at 17 because we were in his house and we were with his mum when he was drinking. I understand what you're trying to say but I can handle this myself.

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Originally Posted by confused_turtle

I understand what you're trying to say but I can handle this myself.

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I'm sure you truly believe that. And I am just as sure that you can't even begin to handle this yourself. This is why there is an age of consent and an age of majority and age restrictions on when someone can legally drink etc, etc. Because young people have neither the experience nor emotional capability to handle these things themselves.

So come back when you are pregnant and alone, or battered and bruised because he beat you in a drunken rage. And tell us then how well you handled this. Oh that's right you don't believe that can happen because he cares about you. Sure!

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