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  • Jan 10, 2011, 06:23 PM
    Alty

    We do understand the position you're in. I think you don't fully understand it.

    Sweetie, you're 10 weeks pregnant. In 30 weeks you'll have a baby. Not a doll, not a puppy, not something you can just put in your backpack and forget about. A baby! A human being.

    Do you really think your mom won't find out? She will. It's inevitable. The longer you wait the harder it's going to be.

    I realize you're freaked out about this. If I was 15 and pregnant I would be freaked out too. The thing is, you can't do this on your own. You need an adult. The only adult in your life is your mom. So you have to tell her. Today. There's not set way to do this. There's no good way. You just have to sit her down and tell her. Be prepared that she'll probably be just as freaked out as you are. She may be mad. She may cry. But, once she calms down, hopefully her mothering instincts will kick in and she'll help you through this.

    Have you given any though to what you want to do? You said you can't raise a baby. I've never met a 15 year old that could. But, the fact is you're having a baby. The baby is coming. So what are your plans?

    You really can't put this off any longer. Talk to mom. Go from there. Keep us posted. Okay?
  • Jan 10, 2011, 06:24 PM
    Freakedoutt
    Comment on Fr_Chuck's post
    I'm confused ?
  • Jan 10, 2011, 06:32 PM
    Freakedoutt
    Comment on Altenweg's post
    Bro hang on... I'm calling k?
  • Jan 10, 2011, 06:35 PM
    Alty

    Quote:

    bro hang on... I'm calling k?
    Um, bro?

    You're calling your mom? Good.

    I have to go for a while. I'll be back in a few hours, so please keep posting. We're here to help in any way we can.

    Just so you know, I'm not a bro. I'm female, and I have 2 kids of my own, one only 3 years younger than you. Also, once upon a time, a long time ago, I was 15, and I was no angel. So yes, I do understand. :)
  • Jan 10, 2011, 06:40 PM
    Freakedoutt
    Comment on Altenweg's post
    Hahahaha yea and I'm kiwi we call anyone bro its just like saying oi lol I don't no if I'm an angel lol but OK.
    Later bo :)
  • Jan 10, 2011, 09:50 PM
    joypulv
    Sometimes people jump on very young women here out of concern, that's all, they really care.
    It was nice of Fr Chuck to look for some NZ counseling help for you.
    If you want to talk about why there are so many people in your home, and if someone in your home is the father and you are confused about whether you wanted to have sex to happen, please tell us.
  • Jan 10, 2011, 10:15 PM
    Alty

    I had to spread the rep Joy.

    Joy is right. If there's anything on your mind, anything you feel you need to talk about, you can tell us.

    This site is amazing. Not only are you anonymous here, but I can tell you that this site is full of the best people I've ever known. I would let my children come here and feel safe in knowing that they would get the best advice, they'd get help, compassion, and most importantly they'd be safe.

    We have people that are actual counselors on this site. We have a wonderful nurse that just so happens to work in labor and delivery. We have a Doula. We have women that have been through teen pregnancy and have been where you are now.

    If you need to talk than you're in the right place. You may not always get the advice you want to hear, but it's all from the heart, and it is all meant to help you through all of this.

    I hope you come back.

    If you do post and someone doesn't automatically answer, check back. Unfortunately we can't be on here 24/7 and there are different time zones etc. etc. But we will get back to you as soon as we can. :)
  • Jan 10, 2011, 10:20 PM
    Fr_Chuck

    I am sorry, sometimes I am a little hard to understand, The main thing we want you to know is that we really do understand, the best we can anyway from what we are told here. And the other is that we do really care, none of us are paid, we all give of our personal time, to be on here to help people.
  • Jan 10, 2011, 11:46 PM
    Freakedoutt
    Comment on joypulv's post
    Yea I needta but I don't know what to say
  • Jan 10, 2011, 11:48 PM
    Freakedoutt
    Comment on Altenweg's post
    Hahaha I went away lol. But my mum said that's its all up to me and that shell only give me money if I'm despreate
  • Jan 11, 2011, 05:56 AM
    joypulv
    So.. please do come back after your sleep and tell us what the weird situation in your home is... if someone there is the father and he is older and talked you into sex... even if he's a teenager, your house should not be full of an assortment of people with no one keeping an eye on you.
    I don't want to put stories in your head, just find out what it is you 'idk what to say.'
    I am even more concerned about you after hearing your mother's reaction - saying it's all up to you? She said that?
    If I were your neighbor, I'd invite you to live with me in a heartbeat.
  • Jan 11, 2011, 07:10 AM
    J_9

    Oh, honey, I'm so sorry for the situation you are in.

    First, can I ask you a favor? Would you mind scrolling down your page a little bit to the Answer box? It gives you a lot mor room to type your questions and responses.

    I am the nurse that Altenweg was talking about. I deliver babies every day, so if you have any questions please don't hesitate to ask me.

    Now, I need to know who all you are living with. How many adults and how many children.

    I am very concerned about your mother's reaction. But I need to know how you told her. Did you tell her over the phone or face-to-face?
  • Jan 11, 2011, 02:03 PM
    Freakedoutt
    Umm yeah I don't really sleep lol and its like a massive house and **** and like yeah the guy at home rooted me. Yea she did but I don't know what to do.
  • Jan 11, 2011, 02:11 PM
    Freakedoutt
    @J_9

    Ummmm what are you going to do?
    And um there's 10 19 yr olds and there's me and my little sis and my mum and aunty.
    Umm it was face to face at home. We don't have int at home so like I'm not even at home atm
  • Jan 14, 2011, 07:05 PM
    Freakedoutt
    Comment on J_9's post

    Ummmm what are you going to do?
    And um there's 10 19 yr olds and there's me and my little sis and my mum and aunty.
    Umm it was face to face at home. We don't have int at home so like I'm not even at home atm
  • Jan 14, 2011, 07:23 PM
    Alty

    What are we going to do? We can listen. We can give you advice. Everything else is up to you.

    What did you think we could do when you came here?
  • Jan 14, 2011, 07:46 PM
    Fr_Chuck

    Ok, I get the feeling you are hiding something, exactly what type of home do you live in, is it a shelter, a youth center,
    And if there is no interent there, where are you getting on the internet.

    You keep telling us what can't be done, or why things will not work, but will not give us enough info.
    I will get some heat for this, but I am about ready to close this thread unless you are willing to open up and tell us what is readlly going on.
  • Jan 14, 2011, 08:43 PM
    Freakedoutt
    Comment on Altenweg's post
    What ?
    Your thingy confused me
  • Jan 14, 2011, 08:44 PM
    Freakedoutt
    Comment on Fr_Chuck's post
    How do u close the thread?
    And nah its just a home like a normal home with lots of people.
    What would you like more info about?
  • Jan 14, 2011, 08:51 PM
    Freakedoutt
    Comment on Fr_Chuck's post
    Please don't close the thread

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