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  • Oct 21, 2010, 06:42 PM
    Fr_Chuck

    Looks mean nothing, really nothing, I have 5 boys, guess what the one that is adopted everyone says look the most like me. Even in baby photos.

    And sorry but you can get DNA tests ( maybe not court approved) but they have them you mail in even if you want to prove it beyond a doubt
  • Oct 21, 2010, 07:59 PM
    J_9

    Looks mean nothing. Your child will change his looks quite a few times throughout the years.

    What you do, is file for child support, the father of the baby will deny parenthood, then the court will order a paternity test done. That's how you actually "afford" a dna test.
  • Oct 22, 2010, 05:33 AM
    doctor12
    I know that looks change over the years and most babies look alike, but his eyes look exactly the same. Another thing I have to clarify, since I pretty much told you everything... I don't have to file a child's support because I already am living with my husband and pretty much on sept 18 I had sex with my ex which I met after a long time and this messed all things up. I also had sex those days with my husband as well, almost every day and we also tried to have a baby, and it will be really ironic if I got pregnant instead with my ex just for that day, which I regret so much.
  • Oct 22, 2010, 06:56 AM
    J_9

    Again, I cannot stress it enough... It is IMPOSSIBLE for you to have gotten pregnant on September 18.
  • Oct 22, 2010, 07:55 AM
    doctor12
    I hope so, because I don't want my life to turn upside down for my fault.
  • Oct 22, 2010, 07:59 AM
    J_9

    Okay, how many times do I have to say it's IMPOSSIBLE.

    Look, this is what I do for a living. I am a labor and delivery nurse. I'm not giving you a guess... I'm telling you what your doctor would tell you.

    Pregnancy is 40 weeks, give or take 2 weeks. If you got pregnant in September, your due date would have been June, not July.
  • Oct 22, 2010, 08:14 AM
    doctor12
    You probably told me that 10 times now and I really appreciate your patience toward me, it has helped me lots.take my excuses 100 times, I am probably freaking out... since I read around also that pregnancies can go up to 44 or even 46 weeks and the baby has been fine, but still I doubt it that my doctor and midwife has been lying to me about the weeks. I did monitoring from July 2 up to July 9-th and the baby was fine. The US on July 9 did not pointed anything out just that the amnotic fluid was right and the baby was too big. My boy was 4 kilos when he was born. I have done calculations myself, even by measuring the gestation age according to EDD, AC, HC atc and it all fits with my US.I know that if I had sex on sept 18, the due date would have been max June 18. But, you know, when I see that many things match up physically with the guy, than the doubts rise again. It's a bad feeling and situation and that's why I keep asking and needed reassurements. I have to apologize though because maybe I have offended you somehow. I, myself, am a psychologist, and know very well the issues of my job, just as you know yours.
  • Oct 22, 2010, 09:36 AM
    doctor12
    Can I ask something else related to the first issue? My HCG Quant level on November 3, 2009 was 7124. Can you find ou how many weeks pregnant I was from there?
  • Oct 22, 2010, 03:58 PM
    J_9

    You seem like an educated woman. I'll try to explain a little further why you could not have gotten pregnant in September

    The placenta is the organ that supplies life sustaining nutrients from you to the baby through the umbilical cord. After 40 or 41 weeks the placenta begins to deteriorate leaving your baby with inadequate access to blood and oxygen. At 44 - 46 weeks or more, the placenta will no longer function and you end up losing the baby.

    You can try to justify the intercourse on September 18, but again. It's impossible to carry this long and deliver a live baby.
  • Oct 22, 2010, 04:11 PM
    doctor12
    Thank you for the explanation. I kind know this also because I have read very much during my pregnancy and I have read all this too, but hearing it from you reinforces it. Thanks.
    I asked you another question before about my HCG level. Let me know if you saw that.

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