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I don't no where too start I'm 14 years of age and have just fell pregnant with a 16 year old I am NOT in a relationship with this boy and don't want too tell him about the baby in fact I don't know whether too even keep the baby I've got my GCSE's next year and I'm not sure what too do I've rang an abortion clinic but I'm still not sure,I need someone else's opinion on this. What would you do if you was in my situation?&by the way I'm 12 weeks pregnant and fount out 3 days ago.
Please tell your parents about this.
I would tell my parents but I just can't not yet anyway I want too be for sure on what I'm doing so someone please give me there opinion on what they would do?
This is NOT something you can decide about on your own. You need adult help. Please tell your parents today.Quote:
Originally Posted by bethanyjaynee
It's something I'm going too have too decide my mum is having a baby herself so it just feels wrong too tell her that her 14 year old daughters having a baby as well plus she's away for 2 weeks and there's noway I'm reuining her holiday.
PLEASE just try and help me make decisions in some kind of way?
Is it legal to put new carpet over old carpet in NC?
I don't know what too do I'm so upset.
I've got really bad cramps and a discharge that's yellowish with red.
I'm alone in my house trying too decide what I've got to do and I can't think staright does anyone have any suggestions on what they would do if they were '14 and pregnant?'PLEASE any help will do.
I don't know what too do I'm so upset.
I've got really bad cramps and a discharge that's yellowish with red.
I'm alone in my house trying too decide what I've got to do and I can't think staright does anyone have any suggestions on what they would do if they were '14 and pregnant?'PLEASE' any help.advice will do.
Call your doctor and explain your situation. Don't wait call now.
Yes, go to your doctor, or a planned parenthood, and some places even have health departments that provide health care for pregnant women. Just see someone now so they can explain to you what your options are and what's next. You need to act NOW. Good luck.
Do you have a father?
Your mother left you alone at home for two weeks?
You guys on here make everything sound SO easy I guess adults know what too do though especially in situations like this.
I'm too scared too do anything I have rang a few abortion clinics up but I'm not sure whether its what I want I'm 12 weeks pregnant and I'm feeling very ill and sore.
I got pregnant with a 16 year old at a party-SLAGISH I know.
And I've had unprotected sex whilst being pregnant also with a different person-I didn't know I was pregnant at this point.
I really want too tell someone but I can't my options are really narrowed down too be alone or abortion because my mums away abroad-shes pregnant herself
&the 'babys' dad won't want anything too do with it if I tell him he's a teenage boy he wants a life with his friend getting high and having sex whenever he wants.
I'm not sure what I'm going too do now I would go too my GP but the GPS my step-cousin!&im seriously not going there because she will go staright too my mum and then I will get battered.
You see I've disappointed my mum so much I think this would push her too the limit I think she would actually dis-own me.
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Im not sure what too do now whatever discisson I makes going too be so hard,I feel like crying I've got so much pressure on me and I'm not sure what too think basically my lifes over.:L
Call your local hospital and talk to a Nurse or Doctor there. See what they have to say and how to go about your situation. Who is caring for you since your mom is gone ?
Yes I have a father I see him every two weeks-the weekends only.
There's noway I can tell him he's my dad that's just not right he won't understand and he will just take it into a massive drama and then probably not come and see me for months.
¬ on my 'own' my 20 year old brother lives at mine but he's out most of the time anyway only in the day though he normally sleeps at mine every night but not that last three nights-this is why I thought I'd take a test because no one was around too annoy me or hassle me or ask what I was getting up to.
Of course I found out I was pregnant&now I'm stressing out completeley I just decided that I'm going too have too tell the baby's dad even if I do have an abortion because it might be easier with him there & him helping me decide things.
I'm not sure what too do now whether too have this baby and reuine my life and be called a slag or too just go too an abortion clinic and get this over and done with,but when I'm older I might not be able too have children which is why I'm thinking about getting 'rid' is a good or bad idea&im not sure whether I'm 100% happy with the abortion idea yet ERGH I just don't know what too do.
Trust me, we don't take any pretense that this is easy for you. The facts are: you made a decision to have unprotected sex, and now you're pregnant. What do you do? You speak to a doctor and discuss your options and what's next. NO-dealing with a pregnancy, especially as a teen, is not easy-but you MUST make some decisions now because you made the decision to sleep with someone.Quote:
Originally Posted by bethanyjaynee
If you are worried about confidentiality, maybe we could help you better if you told us where you're located-then we can look into doctor's clinics in the area that will keep your information private. OR you can go to another doctor who your cousin doesn't work for.
I do understand what you are saying but I've been on the pill for 2 year and I'm sure I didn't miss taking any!-plus I've been having 'sex' since my 13th birthday normally when I've had sex the boys have there own potection(bring condoms)or I made sure I take my pill and he didn't use a condom this time and I know that but I'm 100% sure I didn't miss my pill.
I even took the morning after pill but ovbiously my body doesn't work with them kind of tablets seen as I fell pregnant to be honest I can't believe myself that I'm 12 weeks pregnant & iknow I have too make a decision quick because time soon flys by but the options that I do have don't seem right for me
The obortion side I'm still not sure on.
I've decided too tell the boy I slept with and see what he has too say and see if he wants this baby or if he'd rather me get rid.
I live in Nottingham if that helps.
I'm just not sure what I want.
You've mentioned you've been having unprotected sex. Now, suddenly you're on the pill and the guys are using condoms?
The pill doesn't work if you take one if you decide to have sex. You have to take them regularly and faithfully every day.
You told me you've slept with guys after this one, and with unprotected sex. How do you know which guy is the father?Quote:
Originally Posted by bethanyjaynee
And even if taken every day, the pill is not 100 percent effective, and even the morning after is not 100 percent, that is for anyone , not just you. It is a matter of odds.
And how and when you take them,
Some hot lines with people that will talk to you over the phone about options you have
Option Line
Hotlines for Teens
I had unprotected sex the one time the time I got pregnant?
&im sure I took my pill that day.
I've been on the pill for a couple of years at first just because I had a heavy period but then I went onto stronger pills for the whole pregnancy side of things.
Ovbiously I need too go threw all my packets of pills and sort out when I was taking them and when I missed them.
Iknow I missed a few in the week that I got pregnant.
And a couple the week before.
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Right now I'm not too bothered about my 'pills' I'm more bothered on the fact that I'm 14 pregnant with a 16 year old and I'm not sure what I'm doing with my life.
I didn't read this whole thread, but the above leapt out at me. You've been having sex since you were 13? With multiple partners? And your surprised you got pregnant? Girl, take this as a wake up call. Whatever you decide to do your life HAS to change. Whether you decide to have the baby and try to raise it or give it up for adoption or abort it. Your life changes. You need to stop being a slut and have more respect for yourself. You need serious counseling and soon.Quote:
Originally Posted by bethanyjaynee
The party I went too was exsacclay 12 weeks and two days ago!
I am around 12 weeks pregnant.
I had sex again after the party like 6/7 days after so I'm pretty sure it would be the guy at the party wouldn't you think that as well?
I'm bothered by the fact that two young teens would make a major decision like this without consulting with adults first.Quote:
Originally Posted by bethanyjaynee
No matter what you decide to do, there will be repercussions.
Did you have any plan for your life, or have you been living for the moment with no thought for the future?
And Scott Gem.
I lost my virginty on my 13th birthday yes I bet there's millions of other girls that did the same.
&im not a 'slut' because I was in a long relationship which I broke up from on a month before my 14th birthday therefore I've slept with the person I went out with the person at this party and the person I had unprotected sex with 5/6 days after the party!-ive slept with him before though.
So stop going on like I've slept with 200 guys because I Haven't.
Not necessarily.Quote:
Originally Posted by bethanyjaynee
'The Future'
You ask if I had made plans for the future and in fact I have.
I had options day at school.
And I picked my GCSE's I'm going too be taking next year and I've also decided that I'd like too go too college and too performing arts I already have a weekend job at my auntys hairdresser so I'm already earning abit of money too myself at 14.
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I did see a baby in my future but ovbiously not so early on in my life.
Yes but if I was pregnant with the person I had sex with after the party I would be 11weeks pregnant.
And I'm 12weeks and abit.
Therefore I think I'm pregnant with the person from the party.
How do you know you're 12 weeks along?Quote:
Originally Posted by bethanyjaynee
"i think" isn't good enough.
'The Future'
You ask if I had made plans for the future and in fact I have.
I had options day at school.
And I picked my GCSE's I'm going too be taking next year and I've also decided that I'd like too go too college and too performing arts I already have a weekend job at my auntys hairdresser so I'm already earning abit of money too myself at 14.
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I did see a baby in my future but ovbiously not so early on in my life.
I know I'm 12weeks and abit gone because I took a clear blue pregnancy test these tests don't just say your pregnant they say around how far gone you are as mine said 12-13weeks.
Without any names or judgments, I am going to ask you: do you plan on going to a doctor right now? Do you plan on calling the hotlines linked here before?
You don't want to tell your parents-but what if you decide to keep the baby?
These are serious questions that you need to figure out, and now. We can tsk tsk tsk at you all we want, but you've already gotten yourself in this situation and you need to speak to a professional. There's nothing else I can tell you. Discuss your options and then YOU choose for YOURSELF.
And now you know that birth control isn't a guarantee about pregnancy. Having unprotected sex, well, that should go without saying.
I said slut and I meant slut. I don't know where you get the idea that you have to sleep with 100s of guys to qualify as a slut. A slut is someone who engages in sex for the sake of sex. And that appears to describe you.
Someone gave you medication to make your period easier. But since that medication also helps prevent pregnancy, you took that as a license to have sex. You may have your head together in other things, but you have been behaving like a slut and I'm going to call them as I see them. If you don't like being called a slut, then stop behaving like one.
I'm sorry to tell you that's not exact. Getting pregnant and knowing who the father is, if you've had multiple partners around the same time, isn't an exact science.Quote:
Originally Posted by bethanyjaynee
I think you will find 'sex' is a natural thing Scott.
&yes I had sex at a young age but I had sex on my 13th birthday after I had been with someone for 4months its not like I went YES its my 13th birthday lets have sex with any guy out there I lost my virginity too someone that ment/means a lot too me and label me as what you want because iknow for a fact I am not a slut.
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And basically your labelling anyone that 13+ and that has sex as a slut I will think you will find most 13 year olds are having sex nowa days.
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&southamerica I would ring one of the hotlines but I live in england all of the hotlines are for america!
&i plan too go too a doctors very soon I'm going too sign too a new doctors one of which my cousin doesn't work at.
IF I keep the baby then I guess my parents will have too know.
So I would probably tell them after I'm 3months gone because before your 3months there's a chance you can still loose the baby and w.e so I want to make sure on what I'm doing first.
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I'm still really confused though not sure what I want right now-maybe too be someone else?
Omg so now the person I thought was the dad might not be the dad.
GREATTT even more worrying now.
Do I tell both of the boys that I slept with about the baby or neither?
The first link included England.Quote:
Originally Posted by bethanyjaynee
Hmmmm, how did my boyfriend of six years (age 15-21) and I control ourselves and not have sex?Quote:
Originally Posted by bethanyjaynee
That's your dicission on whether you wanted too have sex or not but he asked me and I felt ready we had been together for 4months and for me that was long enough.
It felt right with him I felt special when I was with him.
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&its not that you controlled yourself it's that you made a dicission within you relationship not too have sex.
No, we controlled ourselves (it was tough, but we did it) AND made the decision to wait.Quote:
Originally Posted by bethanyjaynee
You do realize that getting an abortion isn't a "get out of jail free" card, don't you?
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