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  • May 16, 2010, 03:53 PM
    Wondergirl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by JK191 View Post
    I'm just contemplating, I'm not gonna go through with it (I hope anyhow).

    If you go through with it, I'll never speak to you again.

    Now, what's first on the list to fix? I recently retired and have all this free time on my hands.
  • May 16, 2010, 04:03 PM
    JK191

    If I did go through with it, I wouldn't post on any site ever again.

    I don't know, for now I'm just going No contact on my ex and trying to study since I can't solve my family.

    For now, I'm just hoping my life will go uphill while I keep going No Contact, working out and trying to improve myself to raise my self-esteem.

    I'm hoping that once my self-esteem goes up so will my quality of life. It's not an overnight process so we'll see.
  • May 16, 2010, 04:09 PM
    Wondergirl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by JK191 View Post
    If I did go through with it, I wouldn't post on any site ever again.

    That's even worse than my not talking to you again! :eek:
    Quote:

    I don't know, for now I'm just going No contact on my ex and trying to study since I can't solve my family.
    Good thinking. You've set priorities. School should come first. Anything I can help with? I'm real smart.
    Quote:

    I'm hoping that once my self-esteem goes up so will my quality of life. It's not an overnight process so we'll see.
    It will go up if you follow the plan you mentioned. I'm here for you. I've got lots of time.
  • May 17, 2010, 02:21 PM
    JK191

    Came close to breaking NC today, kind of feel proud I didn't.

    I destroyed every single text message I had in my phone, both sent and received. I took every single thing my ex gifted to me and shoved it into a random box in the attic.

    I'm really close to bringing myself to deleting any pictures in where she's present.

    I also feel like beating up a couple of guys, I have no idea why though.
  • May 17, 2010, 03:12 PM
    Wondergirl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by JK191 View Post
    Came close to breaking NC today, kind of feel proud I didn't.

    Yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaayyyyyyyyyyyyyy!!
    Quote:

    I also feel like beating up a couple of guys, I have no idea why though.
    I also know a few you can beat up. Tell me when I can bring them over.
  • May 17, 2010, 05:58 PM
    JK191

    Wow...

    I got off the shower and into the scale seems like I gained 4 Kg (I think 8.8 pounds). Which frankly is awsome, working out is really paying off. (I'm quite skinny, so this is awsome).

    And my ex came IM'ing outraged that I've been ignoring her.

    This last hour has been just... a confidence boost.
  • May 17, 2010, 06:22 PM
    Wondergirl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by JK191 View Post
    Wow...

    I got off the shower and into the scale seems like I gained 4 Kg (I think 8.8 pounds). Which frankly is awsome, working out is really paying off. (I'm quite skinny, so this is awsome).

    And my ex came IM'ing outraged that I've been ignoring her.

    This last hour has been just... a confidence boost.

    I am feeling the power radiating off you. Surges of electricity are sizzling the ends of my hair. Like the McDonald's ad, I'm lovin' it!
  • May 21, 2010, 06:30 AM
    JK191

    Can't seem to get my ex girlfriend out of my head... This is driving me absolutely nuts.

    How can you get over someone if you have to see them at least once every week? It's just hard and painful.
  • May 21, 2010, 08:19 AM
    Wondergirl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by JK191 View Post
    Can't seem to get my ex girlfriend out of my head... This is driving me absolutely nuts.

    How can you get over someone if you have to see them at least once every week? It's just hard and painful.

    Think about it this way -- you don't have to see this person for SIX whole days!!
  • May 24, 2010, 11:44 AM
    JK191

    Some people have been suggesting to me that I should go see a psychologist. I don't have an interest in doing it but I can see where maybe it would be worth it.

    Just how expensive are they?
  • May 26, 2010, 07:52 AM
    JK191

    Anyway, decided to drop by and tell you guys (or Wondergirl) that I've decided to see a therapist.

    I think it won't do much but there is the offchance that he/she will be able to drive my suicidal thoughts away and I feel like I could do away with those.

    Thanks for the support though guys (Wondergirl).
  • May 26, 2010, 07:55 AM
    I wish

    As long as you continue to take steps to help yourself, to better yourself, then you're moving forward.

    Continue to take it one step at the time. You don't need to put pressure on yourself by expecting to wake up one morning and be on cloud 9.

    I would also add that as you continue to make progress and take steps to better yourself, you will continue to feel a sense of accomplishment and that will boost your confidence and self-esteem.

    But remember, one step at the time. When you walk the stairs, you take one step at the time, you can't fly up there instantly. But once you're reached the top, you will feel happy that you were able to walk all those steps; thus, the sense of accomplishment.
  • Jun 3, 2010, 04:57 AM
    JK191

    Psychologists really are idiots...

    So after today's therapy and fifth session he actually blurted out that maybe I really should kill myself. I mean, that's just... wow.

    I was speechless by that and it's fair to say I'm not going to bother with a psychologist at all anymore or ever.

    What kind of professional straight up tells a patient that maybe he should commit suicide?
  • Jun 3, 2010, 07:20 AM
    Wondergirl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by JK191 View Post
    Psychologists really are idiots...

    So after today's therapy and fifth session he actually blurted out that maybe I really should kill myself. I mean, that's just... wow.

    I was speechless by that and it's fair to say I'm not going to bother with a psychologist at all anymore or ever.

    What kind of professional straight up tells a patient that maybe he should commit suicide?

    Good grief! I wish he lived in this country. I'd call and give him a piece of my mind. Hmmmm, how much is a call to where you are??

    Now, if you'd been his patient for several years and had a great rapport with him, I could see this happening as a sort of reverse psychology or even small joke between the two of you. But geeeeez.

    I guess it's just you and me now (and the rest of the gang here). I really wish we could sit down and chat about things over a cup of coffee. I (we) have really become quite fond of you and want the best for you. How can we get to that place? I'm feeling very frustrated -- angry too.
  • Jun 6, 2010, 04:29 PM
    JK191

    Scale says 130 pounds. It's just amazing, I haven't felt this good about my body in a while and the ramifications are just amazing, I'm more confident, have better self-esteem, I'm less stressed, suffer from less rage issues.

    Regular exercise just overall helps a lot. I think I'm actually on the right path to happiness now.
  • Jun 6, 2010, 04:34 PM
    Wondergirl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by JK191 View Post
    Scale says 130 pounds. It's just amazing, I haven't felt this good about my body in a while. ... I think I'm actually on the right path to happiness now.

    Be sure to beef up your mind and emotions too. They also need your attention.
  • Jun 8, 2010, 04:44 PM
    JK191

    I have no idea why, but I'm trying another psychologist, let's hope this one goes better than the last...

    Also, I've been in a perma-happy mood lately, I'm loving it ^_^
  • Jun 8, 2010, 04:51 PM
    Wondergirl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by JK191 View Post
    I have no idea why, but I'm trying another psychologist, let's hope this one goes better than the last...

    Also, I've been in a perma-happy mood lately, I'm loving it ^_^

    He's a psychologist with Ph.D. after his name? Does he specialize in anything? (I'm checkin' up 'cause I care about you, JK.)

    When's your first appointment?
  • Jun 8, 2010, 05:11 PM
    JK191
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    He's a psychologist with Ph.D. after his name? Does he specialize in anything? (I'm checkin' up 'cause I care about you, JK.)

    When's your first appointment?

    Yeah, he has a doctorate degree.

    I don't know, it's actually an old colleague of my uncle (he's a surgeon specializing in gynecology, guess you meet all sorts of people in med school).

    I trust my uncle's judgement so I actually think it'll go better this time.

    As for his specialization, I don't know, I haven't asked.

    First appointment is Friday the 25th.
  • Jun 8, 2010, 05:18 PM
    Wondergirl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by JK191 View Post
    Yeah, he has a doctorate degree.

    I dunno, it's actually an old colleague of my uncle (he's a surgeon specializing in gynecology, guess you meet all sorts of people in med school).

    If this guy went to med school, he must have M.D. after his name and be a medical doctor in psychology, i.e. a psychiatrist. Psychiatrist is a notch up over a psychologist. He can prescribe meds too. BE SURE either he or someone he recommends follows up with regular maybe-twice-a-week counseling!!

    Sounds like a good referral. I can't wait until the 25th!!

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