Hmmm... do you have a question?

That's quite a general and broad statement you wrote there. While I sure some women( an guys) act that way I can't say in my experience that all women( or guys ) act this way. It does make perfect sense though, when you re openly dating to date a number of people... after all, it is a good way to find out who will work for us. Plus, many girls like to be pursued, courted ( call it old fashioned, call them shy, whatever)and expect the guy to make the initial moves.

I am attracted to beautiful women, but just as in the movie, I get rejection unless I lower my standards.

Without sounding vain, I can't do that. I can't fall in love with someone I am not physically attracted to... But since women go for looks as much as men, then how can I expect them to fall in love with me.

Getting older now, leaving it to late for a family... but can't see a way out of this vicious circle!!

I like your honesty! I wouldn't normally advise online dating, but since you're a grown man I'm sure you know the dangers of using online dating, have you ever tried it? But without actually seeing the persons picture? Just find a profile without a photo and read about them, if you like what you read, try getting to know them only through emails first, then after sometime, maybe ask to meet or see a photo. They might not be picture perfect but you will have gotten to know them from personality first. It might help.