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I have no friends.

Hello everyone! I am a 19year old female.. I recently moved and I have no friends here, everyone I meet through work are all party animals (and I'm not into that scene) or A lot younger than me (16 yrs) and I am really lonely, I don't have much money so I can't join like dance classes or anything. I do have a boyfriend and his friends but they are 2000miles away and I only go there a few times a year. I am starting school in September so I am hoping on meeting people then but for now I'm so lonely, I have been for the past year or so. Everyone I meet is OK but we like totally different things. I do go to church and I have been to the young group but its mostly 9-16year olds and the only people in the group who are my age are guys and they all want to date me (im not being cocky but its true! Its really frustrating) So I sit alone on fridays and Saturday nights. Its really bothering me and I don't no what to do or where to go. Any advice??

Also I used to have a big social life, so it sucks now :(

Lol if your lonely then meet people on here. Get email addresses or phone numbers. You never know, you could find a great friend.

Oh! I think there aren't much people that are "good" friend material at our age. Im 19 too and I find it hard to have good friends although I do have a few best friends but other than that not really.

Is there something that happened in your life that lead to it? For me we moved to a different city and I felt like an outcast till you start getting out there and you ll meet more friends just like how I did it.

Try joining clubs at school, meet people from getting a summer job and ask them if they want to hang out after, volunteer and there will be some people your age volunteering as well. Basically just get out there and do the things you like and you will meet people with the same interests.

Do you know any people from school that aren't that close? Try to do something with them and who knows they might be your best friend afterwards.

I used to live in this town when I was younger and then just moved back, but now I realize my old friends are party animals like they go out and drink all the time and hook up with guys all the time. Its just not a scene I'm looking into. But another problem is I don't drive, and I live a in an odd place, and I don't want to meet someone and have them drive me everywhere.. u know. This is so upsetting for me. Also my boyfriend has a HUGE social life and I always see his pictures of Facebook and it upsets me more because I'm missing out on so much in my youth. I feel like I'm at a deadend being 19 and have nofriends.. :(

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i used to live in this town when i was younger and then just moved back, but now i realize my old friends are party animals like they go out and drink all the time and hook up with guys all the time. Its just not a scene im looking into. but another problem is i dont drive, and i live a in an odd place, and i dont want to meet someone and have them drive me everywhere.. u know. this is so upsetting for me. also my bf has a HUGE social life and i always see his pictures of facebook and it upsets me more because im missing out on so much in my youth. i feel like im at a deadend being 19 and have nofriends.. :(

awwww h0llister. I don't hang out with friends as much either so I hang out with my family lol better than not hanging out at all although it would be nice to go out with friends =P. Yah not much as a party goer too, I guess that's why we don't have much friends. But yah, hmmm friends shouldn't have problems driving friends around!! That's what friends are for =P

you know actually I don't think you should focus on this that much. DO WHAT YOU WANT TO DO!! Have any hobbies? Music? Dancing? Do those!! Be happy by yourself and you will attract friends into your life. =P

I don't mind goingout to clubs and having a few drinks but all the people I know get completely wasted and act like sluts lol so I avoid goingout with them. But also I just live with my mom. I have hobbies but I can't afford to pursue them. Its been over a year now of loneliness uhhhhhhhhhhh sooo annoying

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i dont mind goingout to clubs and having a few drinks but all the people i know get completely wasted and act like sluts lol so i avoid goingout with them. but also i just live with my mom. i have hobbies but i can't afford to pursue them. its been over a year now of lonelyness uhhhhhhhhhhh sooo annoying

Lol sounds like someone needs to get out and have some fun. Go to the clubs by yourself and meet people XD

Hi, h0llister!

If you would like, I have an activity that I like to do with people on this site that might give you another outlet for something productive to do.

Do you like to write poetry and/or the lyrics to songs?

Thanks!

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lol sounds like someone needs to get out and have some fun. go to the clubs by yourself and meet people XD

Omg noo lol OK I went out with (the crazy drunk animals aka. My old friends) and they let me alone at the club cause there drunk and met some guys.. u know :S and I had so many guys after me so I left and went to the parking lot to get a taxi and some guy followed me and was like hey baby and stuff and I gave him a dirty look and he started yelling rude names to me and was walking up to me with like 8of his guyfriend.. OMG I was so scared but lucky a taxi came and I left.. I am never going to a club alone again.

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Hi, h0llister!

If you would like, I have an activity that I like to do with people on this site that might give you another outlet for something productive to do.

Do you like to write poetry and/or the lyrics to songs?

Thanks!

Hey!! I LOVE WRITING SONGS AND MUSIC!! =P

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Originally Posted by Clough

Hi, h0llister!

If you would like, I have an activity that I like to do with people on this site that might give you another outlet for something productive to do.

Do you like to write poetry and/or the lyrics to songs?

Thanks!

Thanks for the offer but I can't write poetry and I have a difficult time understanding the lyrics in songs.. but honestly thank you so much, if I was more talented in those areas I would accpet.

Hi, none12345!

Do you play a musical instrument? And, if so, what do you play, please?

Thanks!

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omg noo lol ok i went out with (the crazy drunk animals aka. my old friends) and they let me alone at the club cause there drunk and met some guys.. u know :S and i had so many guys after me so i left and went to the parking lot to get a taxi and some guy followed me and was like hey baby and stuff and i gave him a dirty look and he started yelling rude names to me and was walking up to me with like 8of his guyfriend ..OMG i was so scared but lucky a taxi came and left.. i am never going to a club alone again.

lol XD... there are no clubs in my city that's pathetic XD got to go to the big city which is like 30 min away. I never been clubbing but want to try at least once =P how is it like?

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thanks for the offer but i can't write poety and i have a difficult time understanding the lyrics in songs.. but honestly thank you so much, if i was more talented in those areas i would accpet.

Well, you could practice doing those things! I can show you how! I used to not be able to write hardly anything - even a simple letter!

But, it's all up to you. It would be fun, though!

Its fun honestly!! When your with goodfriends. When I go to see my boyfriend we always go to clubs and cute bars and live the life man.. but here I'm alone in a stupid small town with no life.. I love fashion and art and lots of city-vibe stuff but I'm stuck between trees uhhhh.. lol but you should go !

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Hi, none12345!

Do you play a musical instrument? And, if so, what do you play, please?

Thanks!

Yah been play guitar for 8 years now and I have a piano which I have just messing around with!

What sort of things do you play on the guitar and piano?

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its fun honestly!!! when ur with goodfriends. when i go to see my boyfriend we always go to clubs and cute bars and live the life man.. but here im alone in a stupid small town with no life.. i love fashion and art and lots of city-vibe stuff but im stuck between trees uhhhh.. lol but u should go !

Lol okay!! Not much of a dancer, actually I hate dancing lmao!! So it ll just be awkward if I go haha

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Well, you could practice doing those things! I can show you how! I used to not be able to write hardly anything - even a simple letter!

But, it's all up to you. It would be fun, though!

I could try... but I'm not promising anything.. I'm going to a different country in 2months for the whole summer.. so I won't be able to keep on doing it

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What sort of things do you play on the guitar and piano?

Like what do you mean? I have been playing covers a lot and been wanting to write music but always gave up half way... :(

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lol okay!!! not much of a dancer, actually i hate dancing lmao!!! so it ll just be ackward if i go haha

SAME! I AM THE WORSE DANCER EVER!! But like its still cool to see it and pretend to dance... usually everyone is drunk and are dancing really bad lol.. so it doesn't matter

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i could try... but im not promising anything.. im going to a different country in 2months for the whole summer.. so i wont be able to keep on doing it

Which country are you in h0llister?

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which country are you in h0llister?

Canada!

It's just something that you could try and get started and maybe continue it in the future. I can guarantee that you'll be successful in the process. Things might need to be re-written some though for the words to fit with music. That's something's that's common to happen when writing songs.

Thanks!

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canada!

Lol same!! Let me guess a us boyfriend? I had a us girlfriend didn't end so well... sigh

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Originally Posted by Clough

It's just something that you could try and get started and maybe continue it in the future. I can guarantee that you'll be successful in the process. Things might need to be re-written some though for the words to fit with music. That's somethings that's common to happen when writing songs.

Thanks!

Lol so what were you talking about? Guess you don't want to anymore plan something anymore? Lol if you're looking for some metallica, metal players than I'm not the person XD

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What sort of things do you play on the guitar and piano?

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like what do you mean? I have been playing covers a lot and been wanting to write music but always gave up half way... :(

What I meant was the type of music that you're able to play, like reading it from actual sheet music, tab, classical, rock, jazz, folk, etc.

Thanks!

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lol same!!! lemme guess a us boyfriend? i had a us girlfriend didnt end so well... sigh

Actually mexican but still friggin far

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It's just something that you could try and get started and maybe continue it in the future. I can guarantee that you'll be successful in the process. Things might need to be re-written some though for the words to fit with music. That's somethings that's common to happen when writing songs.

Thanks!

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lol so what were you talking about? Guess you don't want to anymore plan something anymore? Lol if you're looking for some metallica, metal players than I'm not the person XD

My comment there was more so directed to h0llister since this is really her thread. If you would like to collaborate in writing a song, we could do that too!

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Originally Posted by Clough

What I meant was the type of music that you're able to play, like reading it from actual sheet music, tab, classical, rock, jazz, folk, etc.

Thanks!

Lol oh yah I read actual sheet music and tabs. I play mostly rock, jazz, and alternatives and I want a career in country music. I don't know why but country isn't as popular anymore but its what I like to sing with a touch of other genres XD

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My comment there was more so directed to h0llister since this is really her thread. If you would like to collaborate in writing a song, we could do that too!

Lol yah we kind of got away on her thread. Sorry hollister but ill be sure to check it out when you start one!!

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actually mexican but still friggin far

Wow he lives in mexico? O_O how'd you guys meet?

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lol yah we kinda got away on her thread. Sorry hollister but ill be sure to check it out when you start one!!!

Don't worry!! Lol

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wow he lives in mexico? O_O how'd you guys meet?

He came here to study english for a year and we met back in 2006!! Uhh its been so long but we can't even be together until he's done university in 3years.. so who knows what's going to happen

If either of you do want to try your hand at writing a song, please do so in the Writing forum topic area. That's one of the areas that I moderate, and if something goes "oops!" I can fix it then.

We could discuss what to title such threads here, though.

Thanks!

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he came here to study english for a year and we met back in 2006!!!!!!!!!!! uhh its been soo long but we can't even be together until hes done university in 3years.. so who knows whats going to happen

Actually I met my ex in toronto... she came there for a family vacation and then we did long distance relationship for 1 year. Known her for 5 and 1 year of being together in that 5 years. Its been hell and she finally gave up on me and told me she wanted to be with this guy that is closer and that just confessed to her out of no where. That hit me out of no where and I didn't see it coming.

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We could discuss what to title such threads here, though.

Huh? What do you mean? O_O

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Actually i met my ex in toronto... she came there for a family vacation and then we did long distance relationship for 1 year. Known her for 5 and 1 year of being together in that 5 years. Its been hell and she finally gave up on me and told me she wanted to be with this guy that is closer and that just confessed to her outta no where. That hit me outta no where and i didnt see it coming.

Aww that's my worse nightmare :( u live in toronto??

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aww thats my worse nightmare :( u live in toronto??????

Nah the city right above it but its so close I'm always in and out. You live in toronto? O_O

But yah that's every person's worst fear in a long distance relationship. I didn't see it coming... everything was so perfect than one day she told me "i can't be with you anymore" and I found out later that she was with a new guy... actually afterwards she admitted she cheated on me before even telling me she can't be with me anymore...

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We could discuss what to title such threads here, though.

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huh? What do you mean? O_O

We would want to title them so that they are unique from the other threads there that are also about writing songs. It would be much easier then to reference them and to keep track of and find them.

Thanks!