Hi my name is Umair and I am 21 years old. My story of life is unique when I was 5 year old my cousin told me that she love you she was just 4 years old and now our love is 17 years old this is very strange. We started to love each other when we did not know the meaning of love, but I think we started to love because we were born for each other. I was living very happy life with her but at the start of this year my cousin told me her parents are looking for a good boy to marry with her. I became frustrated and I told my mother that I love my cousin, but she said I will never allow you to marry her, because she is not a good girl.

But the fact is that my mother met with her just one time and I know her from 17 years. I know she is the best girl I ever saw. But today my mom says even if you die I will never allow you to marry her. I am very deep end. I love my mother, she is very good, but I can’t leave my love. I did not tell my love that my mother is not supporting her. Instead I told her that my mother will come to your home to talk to your parents after 2 years. I am very sad I lied to her for the first time in my life, because I cannot see my love sad.

Now I do not want to live. My friends say that you are very talented don’t waste your life, you will become good for humanity, but frankly speaking I have no feelings in me. I never feel happy. My mind remains confused. Every time I started to forget things like what I have eaten one hour before. I do not know why my mother is doing that with me. My brother went to America and he married with a girl and did not tell my mother, but when she became aware of his marriage, she did not scold him, but she scolds me every time that you are interested in a girl , etc.

I post here and I just want to know a way to end my life. I don’t want to live more than 8 months, but I want to sacrifice my life by doing something good e.g. some social work, or something else. Please suggest me?

You honestly must share the truth with your love and put your heads together for a solution. To be honest If I read your culture correctly you both are to young to make a decision, and have time to decide what you want for your futures if you both agree to wait and see how things are when you gain independence for yourselves. You simply refuse to marry others, or run away and be married without permission from your parents.

Are their plans for school and a job for you? You can volunteer for any cause you feel strongly for but killing yourself because you are frustrated and hurt by the attitude of others, even your parents is foolish. Take the example of your brother, leave and do what you think is best. Make a plan and then it.

For sure if you and your love cannot solve this problem, then you were NOT meant to be together so grow up and handle your problems like an adult, not a kid.

Although it may be different in your culture, but do you really think it is wise to get involved with your cousin? If the two of you do decide to procreate one day, the child may have deformities.