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Forgive them if and when you're ready. You're likely dealing not just with the lack of honesty (I'm sure they did what they thought was best for you at the time) but also betrayal. No one wants to...

Hi Pammie! I realize this was long ago, but like your daughter, I didn't find out about my biological father until I was 26. Since there isn't a lot of support (in one place) for people like us, I...

I'm so glad you're looking to connect with her! Fathers are so important. I found out I had a different biological dad when I was 26. Both my bio-dad and the one who raised me are great guys, but I...

Have you tried Troy Dunn's the Locator? Good luck in your search!

I'm not here to judge whether it's moral either; however, as someone who had this happen to her I'd love to know whether you plan to tell the child at some point? I found out when I was 26 that my...

A lot changed. It helped understand some differences I instinctively felt growing up. I lucked out having two great guys as dads and I know it was tough for my mom to deal with. Wish more had been...

Anyone else dealing with social issues surrounding non-paternity? I found out at 26 that my dad was not my biolgical father. Anyone else?

Agreed on the "real" term. I've been dealing with this for the past 9 years and admittedly, it takes some time to figure out how you choose to refer to each parent/person involved (I refuse to call...

I would LOVE to help! I am so on board with you and the other counselors who advise against lying to the children about who the birth parents are. My mother had an affair, my dad knew and decided to...

Thank you, Synnen. That is great insight. I appreciate your perspective, though I don't consider myself an adoptee. I agree that many of the feelings and emotions are alike and in many instances...

Thank you both for your advice! I appreciate the adoption idea, however, that's been one major obstacle--the feelings associated with learning your dad isn't your real father, while similar to some...

If you're talking about betrayal, then that's another story and a whole other way to deal with it. And, good question. The answers are probably as individual as the parents themselves.

I found out that I have a different biological father when I was 26. I've done most of the 'heavy' emotional work that stems from finding out something like this, however, I haven't found many...

I found out when I was 26 that the man who I believed to be my father was not my biological father. I'm 35 now and am still looking for others to speak with about this. I've met my bio-dad and have a...