My daughter is 22, married and has two children. We have had a very rocky relationship. She is in and out of my life. This latest time, my mother-in-law let them rent a house for 5 months and told them it was going to be sold, but they could stay as long as they understood it was temporary and took care of it. They paid 5 months up front. Well when they needed to pay rent, she thought she didn't have to pay that month. Then the next month she doesn't have it. Also, she was working, got laid off and then quit. He has had several jobs, but lost them all. Then it was my fault he couldn't work because I wouldn't watch their children or give them rides, etc... My mother-in-law found our she has brain cancer and is dying. I am taking care of her most days. She was caretaker of the home which is part of an estate. She wants out of it, and her sibling decided to sell it. I texted my daughter to let her know, and it all went crazy. It's my fault, where are they going to go? I'm putting her babies on the street... She hates me, all kinds of threats and the f word. Then she starts telling my husband I'm talking to a guy I used to go out with a few times. My husband is all upset. Why would my daughter lie about that? It's absurd. She put all kinds of stuff, personal stuff about me on Facebook, some of it with a grain of truth, but with her spin on it to cause maximum pain. She's left messages threatening to slit my throat and shoot my husband. There are some stuff in our background, but we had made up and forgiveness given. But when I can't or won't do whatever she needs to get herself out of the messes she gets in its all my fault. This isn't my property, I have no control over it. I think she's directing her anger at her husband at me, but this is way over the top. I don't know what to do. I have told my husband that he needs to trust me, and understand she is trying to ruin my life like I have ruined hers yet again. I just don't understant how this is my fault. My heart is breaking. I am losing my daughter and my grandchildren yet again. I just don't understand.