I am writing for two reasons:
Single mom raised son & daughter ,I worked two jobs so they could go to karate, dance, extra activities, school clothes etc. Dad saw children on holidays by choice.. child support 50.00 weekly for 16 years.. Dad has his own family and large corporation on books ,now that kids are 18 & 19. Son didn't want to finish high school so I told him he would then have to get a job and help support household or finish school... He didn't want to contribute to household so I told him he couldn't live at home. He went to his dads and hasn't spoken to me since... wont take my calls or call me. It has been 1 year since we talked. He talks to his sisters but not me. His dad gave him a job at his company and his own apartment , pays for both children's cell phone bills and they both have gas accounts for their cars. Gives them money for whatever they want. I recently injured myself at work and can no longer work 40 hours... things are tough but able to survive. Daughter is now in college and father bought her new laptop, printer , fridge ,clothes, microwave, meal plan.. gas account , cell phone,car.. I recently went to court to modify child support to continue while she is in college. The courts agreed to it.
I get a call from my daughter at college and she said her dad and her agreed that she should have half the child support weekly.. I told her it is for the roof over her head when she comes home.. I would agree to some but not all.She told me why should my father support you and feed you while I am at school, Go get a full time job and support yourself. I have never been so hurt in all my life. I can't believe she would say something like that to me. In anger I told her she can have all the child support and then when she comes home on some weekends she should go to her dads house.
Many times they would tell me not to eat the food that their dad bought for them.. this is all in the past two years since he started to see them at the age of 16. I don't know what happened or where I went wrong. It seems as though money is much more important then love. I can't take the eye rolling and the disrespectful comments anymore. I would appreciate any input.
Does this turn around? Do I give my daughter the child support? Do I wait for my son to contact me?
EPI