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  • Jul 29, 2010, 12:11 PM
    Openmind5000
    My daughter is angry with me and I do not know what to do?
    My daughter is angry with me and I do not know what to do?
    I will share with you a brief history.I had a challenging childhood but realize now after an abundance of reading and retreats that they did the best they could for the tools they had. There was lots of physical, mental and verbal abuse. I have been to therapy and retreats to deal with these issues. I still have challenges with my mother who was the dominant one. I work on that daily. I am divorced and have a beautiful daughter who is 14. She is beautiful, intelligent, giving and is a model teenager. My daughter has her challenges because her mom has a drinking problem and her dads challenges. My ex-wife is very loving but has her challenges. She has a great career and is stable. My daughter lives with her and I see her twice a week, every other weekend, talk on the phone nightly and we alternate special days like Xmas. I would like to have more time but I am pleased with the arrangement. I have fought for equal time because my daughter wanted that when she was younger. I have been struggling for the last 10 years. I have always had a place for her to stay when we are together. We have built homes together. I was on my own for 4 years to figure out where I was going. The divorce was devastating for me. I had a business and closed it up because I was struggling financially. I then got into a relationship and had a home for my daughter that was loving. I started working for an organization and did extremely well for 4 years and was laid off because of the economy. The relationship ended and I was on the move again. It was a wonderful relationship and there were many lessons learned. My daughter loved the partner I had and was upset when we broke up. I was on my own again. I am trying to get a new business of the ground and doing well. It is stressful. I met another woman about 11 months after the last split. We had a wonderful relationship. She had children and my daughter and her children got along well. We did lots of fun things together. It was a great relationship. The challenge was the values and beliefs were different. There were things shared with her from my ex that were not true. She had challenges also. Her Dad was a big one. We are no longer together. I was very upset and was beating myself up. I have dealt with that issue. I believe that because of the split and my instability, my daughter does not want to talk to me anymore. We were so tight. Everyone that knows the both of us has said they can not believe she does not want to talk to me because of the great relationship we have. We communicated well. I did say things that were bad sometimes but generally very positive. My daughter and I have a great relationship and it is a Win-Win situation. I would always involve her friends in activities we would do. My mom said I did too much for her and that I spoiled her with love, travel and clothes. My family was never close. I would always call them. The only time I would get calls from them is if they needed something. I have let that go. My daughter needs a family. I am trying to get back on my feet again. I am working hard in a new business and it is going well. I do not have a home for my daughter to come to now. I am staying with a good friend in his home. I am working a job a night and developing my business during the day. I am trying very hard. I mediate, read, exercise and eat well daily. Since this started I have sent emails to my daughter to share with her good things about my day and to tell her I love her. She has said she does not want to see or talk to me. She wants her clothes and passport. I have no idea why she does not want to communicate with me because she has not told me. I have shared with her that I believe we should talk because this is how we have resolved issues in the past. What do I do? I have broad shoulders. I know I have made mistakes and I will admit and resolve the issues. I do not run from anything. My daughter is very important to me and I love her dearly.
  • Jul 29, 2010, 12:13 PM
    Kitkat22

    You just did:)

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