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  • Apr 15, 2010, 05:48 PM
    Catsmine

    Check this out, Shaz. We're all so eager to help this kid we're snapping at each other. It goes without saying, whatever any or all of us can do to help, just ask.
  • Apr 15, 2010, 05:52 PM
    Alty
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Catsmine View Post
    Check this out, Shaz. We're all so eager to help this kid we're snapping at each other. It goes without saying, whatever any or all of us can do to help, just ask.

    I snapped? OMG! I'm sorry. I didn't mean to snap, even though your hand does look pretty tasty. ;)

    I was just trying to point out my experiences in this. Admittedly I could be wrong, it wouldn't be the first time, but I'm getting a vibe from all of this, and it's making me want to reach out to this kid like I wish someone had reached out to me. Like I said, I can't expect anyone to understand, it's too hard to explain unless you've been there. Even then, every situation is different.

    Cats, you know I adore you, agree or disagree, that won't change ever. :)

    Hugs?
  • Apr 15, 2010, 06:19 PM
    Catsmine
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Altenweg View Post
    I snapped? OMG! I'm sorry. I didn't mean to snap, even though your hand does look pretty tasty. ;)

    I was just trying to point out my experiences in this. Admittedly I could be wrong, it wouldn't be the first time, but I'm getting a vibe from all of this, and it's making me want to reach out to this kid like I wish someone had reached out to me. Like I said, I can't expect anyone to understand, it's too hard to explain unless you've been there. Even then, every situation is different.

    Cats, you know I adore you, agree or disagree, that won't change ever. :)

    Hugs?

    Alty hugs are magical. No, dear, I snapped at Joe and Mike. Sorry you guys.
  • Apr 15, 2010, 06:26 PM
    Alty
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Catsmine View Post
    Alty hugs are magical. No, dear, I snapped at Joe and Mike. Sorry you guys.

    Knowing both of them, I think it's all good. When a question like this comes up we all have very different opinions. That's good, it will help in the long run. :)

    We won't always agree, we all have different views and experiences to bring to the table. That's what makes this site great, we can all express our opinions and views. It's up to the OP, Shazzy in this case (who we all care about) to make the final decision.

    Another great thing about this site, we'll all be there for her, no matter what she decides.

    This is why I love AMHD and the people on it. :)

    Just saying.
  • Apr 15, 2010, 06:46 PM
    Kitkat22
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Altenweg View Post
    Knowing both of them, I think it's all good. When a question like this comes up we all have very different opinions. That's good, it will help in the long run. :)

    We won't always agree, we all have different views and experiences to bring to the table. That's what makes this site great, we can all express our opinions and views. It's up to the OP, Shazzy in this case (who we all care about) to make the final decision.

    Another great thing about this site, we'll all be there for her, no matter what she decides.

    This is why I love AMHD and the people on it. :)

    Just sayin.


    Friends can disagree and still be friends.. We are all worried about the child. Shaz we're here if you need us:)
  • Apr 15, 2010, 07:23 PM
    JoeCanada76

    Who snapped at who? Did I miss something? Hmmm,

    EDIT: we are all sharing our concerns and different opinions. I did not see anybody snap at anyone, but of course there is difference of opinion. There is nothing wrong with that. Is there?
  • Apr 15, 2010, 07:27 PM
    Kitkat22
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Jesushelper1976 View Post
    Who snapped at who? Did I miss something?? Hmmm,

    Nobody snapped at me... did someone snap at you? We're all friends Joe... We're all worried about Shaz.:)
  • Apr 16, 2010, 01:37 AM
    jmjoseph
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Catsmine View Post
    Alty hugs are magical. No, dear, I snapped at Joe and Mike. Sorry you guys.

    Hey, we are beyond that. It's really not about US is it?

    I think that it's the circumstances that make us frustrated.

    I just feel that doing nothing is not an option.

    We're cool as cucumbers.
  • Apr 16, 2010, 05:16 AM
    tickle

    Snap... snap... snip. Okay, who was it ? Just kidding. I don't mind being a cucumber but not a snapper. How about you, Kit ? Care to chime in, cucumber or snapper ?

    Tick
  • Apr 16, 2010, 05:28 AM
    Aurora_Bell

    I know this is off topic, sorry guys just bear with me here!

    Tick, those dogs can make the best pets. You should have seen Lady when I got her!

    I hope you fall in love when you meet her, I know you've been looking for a new fur-baby. Keep me posted.

    Sorry Shaz, I don't know what to say. I've been that kid too. I've been in Alty's shoes, there is times when she is telling her story, and I feel like she took a page from my book.

    This girl so obviously needs an adult to interveen. Something is going on, and I hope she opens up to you.
  • Apr 16, 2010, 11:59 AM
    Kitkat22
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Aurora_Bell View Post
    I know this is off topic, sorry guys just bear with me here!

    Tick, those dogs can make the best pets. You should have seen Lady when I got her!!

    I hope you fall in love when you meet her, I know you've been looking for a new fur-baby. Keep me posted.

    Sorry Shaz, I don't know what to say. I've been that kid too. I've been in Alty's shoes, there is times when she is telling her story, and I feel like she took a page from my book.

    This girl so obviously needs an adult to interveen. something is going on, and I hope she opens up to you.

    Snapper... Shaz... we are thinking of you!
  • Apr 16, 2010, 03:06 PM
    JoeCanada76

    You know what is another sad thing. It is not about just girls being molested or raped.

    It happens to boys too, but you do not hear about those stories as often but it does happen.

    The comments about all the girls have to stick together and girls getting molested and raped. It just does not happen to only girls.
  • Apr 16, 2010, 03:41 PM
    Aurora_Bell

    Yes you are so right JH, it's so horrible. Unfortuantly it happens to both sexes. It's disgusting, and makes me sick. My heart literally breaks when I hear of the stories from some of those kids.
  • Apr 16, 2010, 03:41 PM
    Alty
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Jesushelper1976 View Post
    You know what is another sad thing. It is not about just girls being molested or raped.

    It happens to boys too, but you do not hear about those stories as often but it does happen.

    The comments about all the girls have to stick together and girls getting molested and raped. It just does not happen to only girls.

    Very true Joe. I was only speaking from my experience, I should have included boys too. It wasn't intentional, but seeing as I was talking to Bella and not a boy, I did comment about our pain because that's what we know.
  • Apr 16, 2010, 05:49 PM
    Kitkat22

    Shaz.. I hope everything works out... Blessings

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