Ask Me Help Desk - My daughter is extremely vulgar towards me

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Originally Posted by amexpo

I started thinking what's wrong with me [not with her].
Mom and grandma are not enough for 12-18 year old girl.
Do you want her to have happy family life with husband and kids under one roof?
I didn't help her immediately, but my approach changed environment and slowly things turned around.
I didn't do anything different, just let them know my thoughts.

Ask yourself if you ever would allow her father to be closer to her [on father's terms, not yours]?
it's the first step. Would you lose the face? is it going to indicate your fault, or whatever?
You have your daughter's future in your hands [probably] and it's only few months left to change.

Friend of my destroyed kids future to prove that they did not want their father.
She manipulated kids and him and now she blames everything on him, of course.
He was bad, because he didn't do what "was best for kids".
She is lying to herself to feel better, but deeply in her heart she knows it's 50% of the truth.
I see it as her revenge, she wanted to punish her husband.
It was a big success, where kids were the tools in her hands [and victims].

Don't take this the wrong way, because it's not meant to be an insult, but is English your native language? Maybe it's just me but some of the things you were saying didn't make much sense because words were left out or the sentence structure. And to be honest, I'm not exactly sure that what you're trying to say really relates to this topic.

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Originally Posted by amexpo

Ask yourself if you ever would allow her father to be closer to her [on father's terms, not your? .

THis young woman that the topic is about has no father, as he has passed away. It's not that her mother (What 2 do) isn't allowing her to see her father, it's because, quite unfortunately, this is not possible.

Your daughter is tripping Im 15 and is a young lady also... and I say take away electronics... it drives teens insane... I don't have my fhone now and its teaching me a lesson, I have to bring my grades up so do that to her

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Originally Posted by Babiicakez

Your daughter is tripping Im 15 and is a young lady also...and i say take away electronics...it drives teens insane...i dont have my fhone now and its teaching me a lesson, i have to bring my grades up so do that to her

Honey, did you even read what other people have said on this post? Did you notice the date on the last post. Pay attention to that.

Electronis is not always the answer if I take the phone away I have no barometer as to where she is or going and that all onto itself can be very dangerous. I feel a phone is an open line for communication, regardless of the conversation. It may even be a cry for help as a result of getting in trouble. However; we have decreased the plan's and implemented boundaries that cannot be exceeded without phone suspension.

Have your daughter tested for drugs. She may have a psychological pain that causes her to attempt self-medication if, perchance, she experienced a traumatic episode such as molestation or date-rape. I would start with a complete physical by a female gynecologist who would be able to refer her to a compasionate behavior modification therapist.

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Originally Posted by connie hunter

Have your daughter tested for drugs. She may have a psychological pain that causes her to attempt self-medication if, perchance, she experienced a traumatic episode such as molestation or date-rape. I would start with a complete physical by a female gynecologist who would be able to refer her to a compasionate behavior modification therapist.

Read the dates on posts, BEFORE you post on them.
Thanks.