This isn't a blog, a discussion between you and me. I was in a physically and mentally abusive marriage. Don't begin to tell me about abuse. Hearing about other women whose husbands killed them didn't help me at all. Not that it's any of your business but, no, my parents didn't allow "us" to use physical violence against each other under ANY circumstance, nor were my parents EVER violent toward each other. I realize that not all families are the same.
And please don't DEMAND a "comforting post" from me - not unless you're a mod - and that would require more than 7 posts under your belt (many of them questions and info, not answers) -or unless it's your question.
Your "Okay, Judy, should I say this" is both passive/aggressive and unnecessary. AMHD doesn't work that way. I find you remarkably confrontational on a thread where long-time experts and members had their own thoughts, particularly when you're 25 years old - not a kid (
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/adult-...me-703096.html).
In fact, is this attitude toward me based on my response to your thread?
And just for the record - yes, if a person is being abused (and I'm not saying the OP is) he/she should go to the Police. Do you believe every complaint to the Police ends up with the minor in foster care? There's Court intervention, counseling, all sorts of things but, yes, bottom line - maybe you defended yourself with your fists. That isn't in my make up. Apparently it's not in the make up of the OP either. She needs to get intervention IF she's being abused. Yes, that's what I would have liked you to say. Foster care might be better than being punched in the mouth on a regular basis - just sayin'.
